how hard do you need to work for marriage

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@nadz123

he doesnt exaclty force me, and its only when we go to peoples house. he will say duppata sar pe karo na and il do it begrudgingly…most of the time he will say cover ur head its so cold outside but its his way if making me cover it..i wore a hat because it was cold and he didnt say anything about that. but to go someones house i doubt he is saying it cos of the cold. its njsut the wya he is. the way he dresses is fine, the only thing he doesnt like is wearing red, and i cant make him wear that cos its besides the point of what im saying. he used to have a longer beard, scrufy, i told him it looks better neat and trimmed, so now he does that, however i think he does it maybe because he thinks it looks good.

see difference is, i want him to look good, so why shud he complain…i feel he wants me to look like a paindu with my head covered, so of course i have problem especially when i see no other female in my fmaily with duppata on head…

so…what abt HIS family…sisters/mom/bhabhis etc? do they cover their head. if so, you should have known he was eventually going to ask you the same before marriage. plus, dupatta on head isn’t really hijab. it only covers half your head. maybe you should sit down with him and explain that wearing dupatta is just a cultural thing and since i’m assumin you’re in the us or grew up outside pak, you’d rather skip that and go for a full islamic hijab WHEN you are ready for it. having this discussion may actually help him realize that you are seriously thinking about religion and hijab and the reason for it. it might be enough for him to then let you choose on your own when and whether you want to cover the proper islamic way.