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You are the company you keep.
I dont think I could continue to be chummy with a friend if she was doing something completely against my values. I would probably create distance and limit contact...I dislike drama and people who go looking for it.
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^ LOL, I was going to use the same quotation. You are known by the company which you keep.
If you're friend is involved in activities that make you feel uncomfortable, then don't hang around her. For example, i have a non-muslim friend who is an awesome person and sometimes she'll invite me to the beach along with her other friends or clubbing and I don't go because the activities come into conflict with my religious beliefs and personality. ** BUT** I'll hang out with her if it's just me and her or a group of girls going to the movies or shopping or theme parks, etc....something more halaal-ish :)
^ That's one example of how to handle incompatible circumstances....just don't participate.
Now if your friend is engaging in some** serious troubling **behavior....and if you really care about her....try to guide her to the right path. Sometimes it works. And if it's not working, then keep a distance.
A person who physically abuses their spouse and children....may eventually not have respect for YOU as a friend either. A person who is cheating on their spouse....can betray YOU (the friend) behind your back as well. Maybe this point can be **GENTLY **brought up when trying to guide your friend. Sometimes avoiding a friend can help them realize that their behavior is immoral and NOT COOL!
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hmmm depends...I have a good friend who recently got divorced and she has started drinking and partying like crazy to numb the pain...I don't agree with her choices but she is a good person so I try to look past it.
As for someone who beats their spouce/children....well that is where I would draw the line.
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...Just as an example, you have a friend who beats their spouse/child(ren). Or one who sleeps with married men....
For the one who sleeps with married men, i'd admonish her since she has single friends available... why go for married ones? ;)
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It depends on how close you are to that frnd of yours. I know one shouldnt be judgemental but i know if a frnd of mine is going the extreme wrong way i wouldnt be able to be close frnds with them. I would never be able to put that part of them aside and just be friends. Thats now how it works for me.
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There is a difference between friends and people I know. With friends I would like to at least relate some aspects of my life, but with people I know, I don't really care. Different people different personalities.
yea but one thing more 'A person is known by the company he keeps'.
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Honey you pretty much cover these issues when you are getting to know people. In case of friends, it does not just drop on your head that they beat their spouse, sleep with married men/women, bury dead skunks in their backyard etc. You learn about people from other people, as the bond gets stronger you get to know more and more about them. So unless you are already comfortable with someone torturing bunnies, only then you will have them as your friends. That is why like-minded people hangout together.
If your friends develop a really bad habit later on - by your standards, then it is your responsibility to talk them out of it. If they have gone totally bonkers, better to leave them alone.
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sara that got to be most deep/thought full thread you opend. I deserve special treatment i will post when I come back from bumming-around.
PlayStation:: you have closed many deep/thought full threads 
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lolzzzzzzz
not yet!! let me post my long some what interesting take on the matter.
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I recall slightly touching upon this in another thread some time ago and it's ben floating around in my head--
Exactly how far would you extend your friendship, especially when they lead a life that goes directly against your morals/ethics?
Just as an example, you have a friend who beats their spouse/child(ren). Or one who sleeps with married men.
Does it matter to you how your friend leads their personal life? One could argue, that you choose to surround yourself wiht positive/decent people and while we accept htat no one is perfect, there's are certain lines that shouldn't be crossed.
Or, do you feel that as long as they have not wronged YOU, it doenst matter what htey do in their private/public life?
I have my own thoughts on this but I"d like to hear from you all first.......
I thought about the whole thing, few times, for little while.
hmmmmm
I guess I have material of like a 200 pages book.
But get this::
1-A dog which bites others, will bite you(learned it when i was like in grade 7). A thief , even your friend will steal from you.
If you are becoming friend with some one who harass/cheat others one he/she will do same to you. Be prepared.
2-I have seen that tendency in ppl, who are not up to the mark to acheave certain things in life. So they tend to add/take-advantage of (even bad) ppl by adding them in there friends circle.
To me its some one saying "I dont have --u know... to do my life "
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Your friends are a reflection of you- if they behave in ways that go against your moral/ ethical standards, don't abandon ship- talk to them, voice it out, see their side of it, and then assess if your relationship with them can be modified (i.e still be friends but maybe not as close as you used to be?). I don't know, people don't change overnight and people with questionable moral values are not that hard to miss early on in a relationship.
If it bothers you a lot, cut it- and try not to befriend people like that to begin with!
I recall slightly touching upon this in another thread some time ago and it's ben floating around in my head--
Exactly how far would you extend your friendship, especially when they lead a life that goes directly against your morals/ethics?
Just as an example, you have a friend who beats their spouse/child(ren). Or one who sleeps with married men.
Does it matter to you how your friend leads their personal life? One could argue, that you choose to surround yourself wiht positive/decent people and while we accept htat no one is perfect, there's are certain lines that shouldn't be crossed.
Or, do you feel that as long as they have not wronged YOU, it doenst matter what htey do in their private/public life?
I have my own thoughts on this but I"d like to hear from you all first.......
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Does it matter to you how your friend leads their personal life? One could argue, that you choose to surround yourself wiht positive/decent people and while we accept htat no one is perfect, there's are certain lines that shouldn't be crossed.
Yes, It matters to me personally what kind of morals and values my friends have. My friends that are close to me only because our values and morals matches and if someone does or did something out of line, I tried to help my frens out instead of leaving them. And if one of my fren is married and does things that I think are not acceptable, I wouldnt say anything until unless he/she comes to me asking for help or anyone related to him/her or if I feel I really need to jump to knock some sense into my fren [thank god nothing like this has ever happened]
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Number 2 is quite interesting. Me like PM! 
“Your friend will stop you from looking weird even if they have to push you a bit.” - Q. Make sense people?
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Interesting questions, personally, I choose not to associate with anyone who is blatantly doing something wrong. I may try to talk to them out of it but if that doesn't work then its bubbye. I had a very good friend in North Carolina who started cheating on his wife, I tried to talk to him about it but he felt very strongly about what he was doing, I cut off ties with him completely. I feel that associating with such people reflects poorly on me.
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I have a really really annoying best friend with questionable morals.
1)I love her though
2)and think shes a foyne piece of ass.
she has a good heart and although many of her decisions are malinformed - I can't judge. See point two above.
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As far as i can remember last time my friendship went to Glasgow from London ;) ;)....
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friendship, what is that? Never heard of it!
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Neat, very neat :k:
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U don't learn about friends from other people.. u know u're friends thru u're judgement.. middle-men are always around to create havoc! Messages get distorted..