listen yanzala ... you don't need to flirt with anyone .. just be a lil open go out with ppl for lunch or coffee ... being a guy i can tell you that flirting has very lil to do with if a guy likes you or not ... every single grl i had a crush on was not flirting with me infact we were good frnds and on really good talkin terms ... so just be a good nice human being and u don't need to learn how to flirt
thanks for the suggestion libranrulz. but my original question was that if i can be married (not arranged) without flirting, going out on dates, coffee, or lunch. because i believe in the restrictions ALLAHTALA has ordered us to follow when it comes to meeting na-mehrams.
...don't take me wrong it's not that i am shy when it comes to guys or marriage. i am actually quite opposite. i think getting married is practical and and important part of a life so when i am talking to a guy at college or anywhere i don't turn red or say stupid things, or run away etc. i am quite confident ALHAMDULILAH.
i have had gone through 3 rishta process (2 came to see me, and i actually went to see the third one at his home :D ) i just felt a little awkward at first but after few minutes i was back to my self and i talked normally and had no problems. :D
btw..thanks for all the replies guys.