how essential is flirting?

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Re: how essential is flirting?

life is short, have an affair ;)

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Yanzala...I have the same issue. But I will never flirt to find a husband and would never marry a man who attempts to flirt with me.

Like others have suggested do not lower your standards. The right one will come along when the time is right. You should not have to compromise your morals and values in order to search for it.

Have faith in Allah. He rewards those who are patient for his sake.

Dil Se' Agar Kabhi Tera Armaan Jaaye' Ga
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What time do you have to be back in heaven? ;)

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firting is cute. You guys need to chill out. I hope I flirt with my husband.

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It just reminds me how u girls react when u find other ladies flirting with ur hubby ladies seem to flirt with my hubby a lot esp white ladies :confused: they talk to me fine but when they talk to him their expressions and actions make me giggle. :cb:

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sara masla hi tou iss life kay short honay ka hia, oss kay baad jab ALLAHTALA ko shakal dikha'en gay tou nama-e-amal mai flirting ho gi tou kitna bura lagay ga...

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you are right, i am not going to lower my standard even if i am left unmarried for rest of my life. marriage is a sunnah, you actually get sawab from getting married, and there is no way i would like to chose a haram way toward a sunnah. it's like robbing a band to go for hajj.

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Hopefully your husband will be a little flirty.

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why are u predicting that?

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I'm not predicting. I'm saying it'll be a good thing.

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Relax and trust in God, He has his big plans set out for those who give up things for Him...

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ummmm dang we're talking about a little bit of harmless flirting, not having affairs! sheesh!

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lol sara. how do u know how much flirting is harmless? i have a friend in college from a very nice family, doesn't believe in having a boy friend either etc. she used to study with a hindu guy and she was so sure she wouldn't get serious about him because he is a hindu, so she flirted with him while studying and keep thinking kay nothing with happen, and it's all just a little bit flirting but eventually she did start really liking him and both of them got in to a situation where she could have done what she would have regret for rest of her life but thank god she didn't. but my thinking about flirting is my own personal opinion. maybe you guys are strong enough to stop your self from getting in to a bad situation. i am a very weak human, and i don't expect a farishta behaviour from my own self. but it just gets very frustrated when you are trying to look for a life partner who would have same values :(

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yes INSHALLAH :D

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yanzala. If worse comes to worse. . Ill flirt with you.

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lol, i am confused, am i supposed to be offended or honored by your offer :p

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listen yanzala ... you don't need to flirt with anyone .. just be a lil open go out with ppl for lunch or coffee ... being a guy i can tell you that flirting has very lil to do with if a guy likes you or not ... every single grl i had a crush on was not flirting with me infact we were good frnds and on really good talkin terms ... so just be a good nice human being and u don't need to learn how to flirt

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thanks for the suggestion libranrulz. but my original question was that if i can be married (not arranged) without flirting, going out on dates, coffee, or lunch. because i believe in the restrictions ALLAHTALA has ordered us to follow when it comes to meeting na-mehrams.

...don't take me wrong it's not that i am shy when it comes to guys or marriage. i am actually quite opposite. i think getting married is practical and and important part of a life so when i am talking to a guy at college or anywhere i don't turn red or say stupid things, or run away etc. i am quite confident ALHAMDULILAH.
i have had gone through 3 rishta process (2 came to see me, and i actually went to see the third one at his home :D ) i just felt a little awkward at first but after few minutes i was back to my self and i talked normally and had no problems. :D

btw..thanks for all the replies guys.

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yanzala I understand what you're saying and i'm not asking you to go on a date or anything ... all i'm saying is that if those guys and any of your frnds are going for lunch or coffee or anything ... don't just say no just go with the flow .... most of the time if a guy asks you for coffee its not really a date ... trust me whn i tell you this :d ... especially in uni a quick coffee means i need to stay up and a sit down in the timmy's or wat have u means i need a lil break from all the other crap goin on campus ... rarely does it qualify as a date ... i kno you're confident and that is good ... but you have to go out ... if u wanna meet ppl ... go on lunches and dinners with frnds ... and most of the time thats how things work out ... atleast in my exp thats how it works