Re: how essential is flirting?
Yanzala...I have the same issue. But I will never flirt to find a husband and would never marry a man who attempts to flirt with me.
Like others have suggested do not lower your standards. The right one will come along when the time is right. You should not have to compromise your morals and values in order to search for it.
Have faith in Allah. He rewards those who are patient for his sake.