If they have put a demand, they surely have the reasons in their mind. It could be either for other siblings (and I know such families where it happens) or it could be because they want to save money for the future when they are scared their children (or sons, particularly) will "change" and wont support them anymore so parents wont be dependent then. In your case, I think his parents just want to bound him so that he may never feel free of the responsibility and obligations towards his parents and the family, you know what I mean. Its the same fundamental mentality k shadi hogai hai to beta badal jaye ga.
Whatever it be, and though many parents (as the posts above tell us) never even appreciate or acknowledge that their sons support them, it remains the primary responsibility of a son to support his parents, regardless of whatever the issues be. He should have faith that Allah will add to his income as a reward because being good and kind to ones' parents (regardless of how they treat you) is mandatory in Islam. When we know that Allah appreciates this, why do we care if the parents do or dont.
I dont know but I dont feel like suggesting to you to ask your husband to negotiate with his parents about percentage. Many sons, as the above posts suggest, are already sending 20% and obviously they are managing. Rizq comes from Allah and He helps. Maybe your parents in law will understand themselves one day and relieve your husband of the burden.
I completely agree that some mother's can be quite nasty towards their own children. But I have just never heard of a mother who actually raised her son with the intention that he abuse women when he grows up as OP stated in her statement.
actually it's most often that the abusers see their father treat their mums like that.
If they have put a demand, they surely have the reasons in their mind. It could be either for other siblings (and I know such families where it happens) or it could be because they want to save money for the future when they are scared their children (or sons, particularly) will "change" and wont support them anymore so parents wont be dependent then. In your case, I think his parents just want to bound him so that he may never feel free of the responsibility and obligations towards his parents and the family, you know what I mean. Its the same fundamental mentality k shadi hogai hai to beta badal jaye ga.
Whatever it be, and though many parents (as the posts above tell us) never even appreciate or acknowledge that their sons support them, it remains the primary responsibility of a son to support his parents, regardless of whatever the issues be. He should have faith that Allah will add to his income as a reward because being good and kind to ones' parents (regardless of how they treat you) is mandatory in Islam. When we know that Allah appreciates this, why do we care if the parents do or dont.
Yes this is the case that they want to bound him but bounding may lead financial issues at our end and they are not understanding it. I have tried talking to him abt this. He skipped the topic altogether! :S