Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
^ but June isnt too far along yeah? we 'formally' got engaged only about 4 months befoer the wedding but had the 'haan haan' a year before. Its just with the timings of leave and stuff, things can get a bit delayed.
Ok, 1st post, here goes!
I'm 21 (m) and halfway through med school, pretty mature outlook on life and I'm from a traditional-ish family. There's always been an unspoken, mutually understood agreement that when the time comes, I'll be introduced to girls with a view to marriage and I'm fine with that. I'm relatively liberal with religion and culture in one sense, but I'm really strictly against drinking, smoking, etc and even "dating" (in the sense of having casual relationships
But I feel ready to meet someone now, and though I've been dropping hints for a while, my mum doesn't really take it seriously. I have an older brother so maybe she's thinking it's his turn first (he's not interested at the moment though)?
In my view, its not like I want to get married right now, I just want to meet someone and become friends etc etc etc so I know I'm not jumping into anything, and its not rushed and maybe get married once I graduate (in a couple of years).
I suppose this is different from other similar threads because I'm a guy in a situation many girls find themselves in!
So I guess my question is, how do I let my parents know that I'm ready without being really overt?
bring a bf home and they will know you are ready...
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^ astagfrullah
You do not tell parents that you are ready for dating. That is extra curricular activity so you do not share it with them. You can share it once you are ready to commit to her. we have three kids. I have told my sons I do not mind if they have girls as friends since they go to school and have girls in class.
What a luck ur children hav,lucky kids!!
bring a bf home and they will know you are ready...
Lusi! He is a guy!!!
lol
Re: How do you let your parents know you’re ready?
Hey there, twenty-one-year old! 
There are soo many people like you out there, it isn’t even funny! Man wants to start looking into settling down and his own parents are still thinking he’s their little darling bacha! It’s outrageous.
If you think you are now mature enough to look into something serious as marriage then step #1: be a man. Tell your parents straight up. This itself is your test to see whether or not you are ready to make decisions for your life.
Good luck - don’t be scared, you’re asking to get married, however you want to twist and turn your words and say no, not marriage but just ‘look into this matter’, it’s like, c’mon man. 
Anyway, yes, you do sound much more mature than a lot of 21 yr olds I know.
If you’re looking for a step-by-step guideline on how to approach your parents, then I’ll say not only you’re out of luck but not ready at all. No one here knows your parents more than you do - only you know how to approach them on this matter. Now, if you’re ready, the talk should happen without much difficulty. :halo:
To all the people suggesting the "get a girlfriend, take her home" route, quite honestly I'd have more of a problem with that than my parents. It's just not how I've been brought up.
all the posters of "shareef larka" thread.. herez an example of shareef larka :)
Zab good luck bro!
give me ur mother's tell number.. i will advocate ur case :) hints wont work simply tell ur mom straight away that u want to get engaged.. if u have a sister than she can also do the job for u very effectively
zab, the other thing u need to consider is. Lets say you do get the go-ahead from ur parents into looking at a girl.. and u have their involvement from day one... ur parents like the girl and vice versa... sometime later, heaven forbid, you two decide thats its not working for some reason or another.... it'll be hard for u two both, but now u will have involved ur parents, and even her parents maybe, how will that work?
I see what you mean, because if parents are involved, its all a bit more 'official' and perhaps not as easy to break things off if something went wrong. But hopefully part of the benefit of the parents being involved will be that they're unlikely to pick someone who is incompatible in the first place... I guess there's benefits and drawbacks both ways!
Hey there, twenty-one-year old! :) There are soo many people like you out there, it isn't even funny! Man wants to start looking into settling down and his own parents are still thinking he's their little darling bacha! It's outrageous.
yup yup yup!
I guess I just need to talk to them honestly..........
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
^Yeah honesty is the best policy
Lusi! He is a guy!!!
lol
lolzzz
I didn't notice my self. He is polite like a girl.
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
^ he is a gentleman
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He sure is.
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you tell them Mom and Dad - I am ready!
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hahahaha
what if they ask "for what" ??
my man is going to shy away lol
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he should say "My mind, body and soul is ready to start another chapter of my life"
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hehe
I don't knw about that. I couldn't say that to my parents.
Specially the "body" part.
^ astagfrullah
:D
Lusi! He is a guy!!!
lol
lol...ouch...I didn't realize that, I guess in that case a gf :D
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
but still BF may speed up the process even more.
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^ hehe