How do you know if he's the one?

MustafaQuraishi · June 10, 2015, 8:24pm

Re: How do you know if he’s the one?

I can understand why you’re scared. I’m scared too. Every time someone recommends someone to me. It scares me through and through just thinking about the fact that i’m supposed to be prepared to say yes or no to someone i only meet a couple of times (the hundreds of meetings after saying YES to someone don’t count here) but sometimes you just have to have faith.

I’m not the biggest romantic out there so i don’t believe that prince charming will come astride his white horse and whisk me away. I’m more of the, find that dude and see where it goes from there kind. I just have to believe that Allah will help me out through that search. Instead of feeling so hopeless and scared like you are right now, i tend to focus my energy on all the positive examples i had around me, instead of the negative ones. I’m the biggest realist there is and so i weigh my pros and cons. Not all stories around me are bad so i think to myself, why not me? Why can’t i open my heart and mind just a little bit to give someone else a chance? Sure, what happened to your cousin was terrible and i wouldnt wish that on anyone but there are also hundreds others in your family who’ve had good rishta’s and lives.

I trust my parents and my family will do everything to the best of their ability, and then there’s Istikhara and just the belief that Allah will take care of me. You’ve got to try and get rid of the fear, inshallah it will go well for you I hope you find a nice girl, someone who can take the fear away.

yeah you are lucky that you have +ve examples around you.