How do you know if he's the one?

[MustafaQuraishi]

Re: How do you know if he’s the one?

@Thornewood9

Its not just meeting the guy. Your family and the other family meet as well. Your parents have more experience in determining the character of someone than you yourself might. Your parents meet his parents and through talking suss out the characteristics and qualities of the family. Then you ask around to find out what other people know about this family and whether they are suitable or not. Its also not just based on one meeting usually. The families meet three maybe four times.
Arranged marriage is usually quite good in determining compatibility. Of course whether its arranged or not the true character comes out when you actually live and share life with the person.

how can you say that ? what is your measurements of compatibility ?

If a girl is marrying someone just because her parents wants to do so, don’t you think the girl will change every single part of her personality so that she is compatible with the guy she is married to ? To keep marriage alive and keep her parents respect and happines ? (girl = brown girl)

One of my bhabhi, I asked her that i have never seen you objecting or putting your suggestions whenever me and your husbands have an argument and she says, whatever they say is right, I have changed my personlity to meet his so that we have happy life … DO YOU THINK THIS IS COMPATIBILITY ? And she wasn’t any girl, she was a master graduate from one of the best university in Pakistan.

This is the sole reason I hate arrange marraige, because you are stuck with a person and ultimately fall in love and personality matches not because it was so before marriage but because you guys are forced by celebrating it openly that we are tying two people together and from 2 years now they will hav ebest compatibility and love.