I totally understand your pov and i get it why you have strong words on this process. I can also believe that okay there might be people (girls for me) whom I can ask “some” questions to see what the compatibility is … BUT no matter what i do, these things will stay stuck in back of my mind.
I am a very straight forward person and I take said words very important. If someone says that she doesn’t like star plus dramas, I would believe in that without asking my parents to figure out the truth (a lame example though).
The point is, that no matter how much I think about this “rishta dates” and no matter how much i prepare myself to have these dates fruitfull, I will always have this fear in my mind that WHAT IF.
To give you two examples, one of my cousin got married to a guy who said that he has amazing job and God knows what. My cousin’s family did their investigation and they said yeah, he is good and got married. After few months of wedding my cousin learned that the guy has no job or no future, everything that they investigated was faked. I can say that my cousin’s family didn’t their job well but one example is good enough to scare the **** out of me ?
I met a girl here in Canada and I was amazed to find someone that good. She was tall, knew how to carry the conversation and mad confidence … I really really liked her. We met couple of times and everything (those questions) seems perfectly lined untill a friend of my friend saw me with her. He approached me via facebook and said whats up with you and that girl. I told him that this is the story and he told me dude stay away … and then he told me stuff that I would have never known about her. To be honest, I wouldn’t have mind her past … but what i did mind was learning all this from someone else. who knew there were more to the story ?
Bottom line - I don’t believe if you are meeting someone just because of rishta purpose. It doesn’t work or at least I am scared.