During college days, my colleagues used to tell me that I was good looking (Of course, I never believed it). In my first job too, I used to hear the same comments and sometimes some guy will indirectly indicate to have sex. I used to avoid such people. Sometimes some guy will joke “Be careful, you may be sexually assaulted”
But one day I was completely surprised when a girl caught me and wanted to have sex with me. She was cute, but dark, I wasn’t interested, but I made no attempt to get rid of her. When she realized, I wasn’t willing, she eventually let me go.
Here, too, I had incidences when I found pretty white woman staring at me and smiling for almost an hour in a restaurant. I just couldn’t make eye contact with her. This is all because of my conservative background.
If you are in such a situation how would you handle it? If you have come across such a situation then share your experiences as well.
What's the worst that could happen to you..when rape is inevitable, just relax and enjoy.
A piece of advise to you too. Someone told me that you are cute and handsome. I won't tell who told me this. Then I had a glance to your picture and I too felt the same.
Sal, flirting is something completely different from sexual harassment. I think every woman in America has experienced walking down the street and having construction workers say dirty things to her. Or Pakistani women being blatantly stared at or pinched. An even worse scenario is when a boss or co-worker discuss inappropriate sexual things with a woman. Sexual harassment can become a game of power. Flirting is natural and somewhat innocent.
I'd say enjoy being young and attractive. But keep your sense of morals and values intact. You'll make alot of girls feel like they must be ugly if you keep ignoring them.
Sexual assault is when an act of sex is forced upon an unwilling person. It sounds like you experienced a very "forward" female who was looking for a willing partner but backed off when she saw that you had no interest. So you cant consider that to be an assault. In US, things are not nearly as conservative as "over there" and if you happen to be "eye-candy" then you'll always find that you get more attention than you may want. Acting aloof to it all will go a long way in fending it off. ie., when you get more stares than you want, give a nasty look. roll your eyes, act annoyed. If its really bad, you can even ask "what? do I have snot on my nose or something?" that'll make 'em back off faster than a rat faced by a snake.
But one day I was completely surprised when a girl caught me and wanted to have sex with me. She was cute, but dark, I wasn't interested,
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u r weird....
anyways a girl wanting to have sex with u but she did walk away after u said no....right? so its not that serious. like saima said it is serious when it is power play...in case the girl was a daughter of your boss and forced you into sexual relationships based on that. also if she did it repeatedly. and men telling him to relax and enjoy...i know it is all in good humour but such perceptions lead to society not accepting the fact that men too can be victims of sexual harassment and rape.
uhm, I also think that our friend may have construed some friendly gesture as wanting to have sex. Let's be honest, it's clear that our friend is new to the west and maybe he thinks that a girl that smiles at him means she wants sex, etc... the typical "hasi to phasi" mentality. So I'd be curious to know sal35, what exactly did she do/say that makes you think she wanted sex? What was the setting, was it at work at the movies, in the mall? Is she someone you know, work with?
mr aa, rotfl! you reminded me of a desi I know who (when he was REALLY new here), went in to have a haircut. The really pretty gal, while she was slowly running her hands thru his hair asked him if he wanted a wash and cut, he said yes. THEN she told him that a "blow" is extra and did he want it? ....well he just had a heart attack thinking that what she meant was quite different than simply drying the hair!!!!
I'd say enjoy being young and attractive. But keep your sense of morals and values intact. You'll make alot of girls feel like they must be ugly if you keep ignoring them.
Great piece of advice. It sounds sensible to me too.
There was an attemp of sexual assault. The south indian young girl caught me and wanted me to touch her private body parts. I just remained stand still and utterly confused and didn’t cooperate with her. She got frustrated and when I felt she had loosened her grips on my hands, I just got out of her.
Don’t ask me further intimate details. I want to highlight that even men are sexually assaulted. If a guy does the same thing, doesn’t it constitute an attempt of sexual assault?
Mr sal, yes you are right and this gal was JUST shy of assault. And yes, males can be assaulted every bit as much as females can so you just have to beware. WHen it comes to female assaulting a male, showing disgust typically goes a long way in stopping it.
sal35- I can understand your dilema brother ! Hold on tight :k:
Sir, if you are talking about a guy getting raped then this statement might hold true, but in case of a (virgin) girl it is not possible to relax and enjoy. Rather, it is very painful experience. I pray no one gets raped
Sometimes some guy will joke "Be careful, you may be sexually assaulted"
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Mediocre troll. But I will give you a 6/10 for the effort. Men wanting to have sex with you and hitting on you was brilliantly orchestrated. The dark indian girl at work coming onto you and wanting you to touch her ta tas was a nice touch and sealed the deal for unsuspecting guppans.
Susan smith, the mother from north calrolina, who had killed her own kids, also initially blamed a black guy to make the story more believable, and so did the run-away bride for her disappearance. Black people in american society are what Indians in ours, especially dark indian women. So, when you craft a story where you stigmatize the dark indian woman as vile skank, you know novice pakis will lap it up. But the wheels came off of your BS story with the white women staring at you for hours bit.
All in all, i give you a C+. You can significantly improve your grade, if you provide us with a glimpse of your radiant beauty by positng at least three of your pics on Image 2.
