How do you go about managing daughters' interaction with Uncles etc

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What's wrong with a father giving his children kisses? It's a way of showing love and affection. I would feel so akward if my husband didn't hug and kiss our kids :/

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^Same here, I think a father should show his kids affection just as a mother would..

Am I misreading or is he hinting that we should be careful about brothers as well :confused: Because if that’s the case it sounds sort of dysfunctional..

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Creating a distance. Intentionally.
Aunt did it following islamic rules. West does it for other reasons.

Point was:
Aunt(a women) being able to be bold enough to put rules and even bolder to address such difficult thing. Which no one wants to think about.

You don't follow the rules because of awkward feeling... some you follow them because you trust them... so awkward feeling never arise.

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I cant say if there is any thing wrong. I just don't like that .. muuuchhh muucchhh

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I really don't think this sort of thing comes from Islam.. Am pretty sure it's cultural because other Muslims (for ex what Sara mentioned) don't think in that way about immediate family.. In Islam there isn't the concept of needing to wear a dupatta or cover your arms and legs (I don't mean show everything obviously) in front of fathers and brothers.. If a girl chooses to though that's fair enough..

If I thought there was a risk of something happening I wouldn't have my husband or son under the same roof as myself let alone any female kids.. In that case I believe the problem would lie with the male rather than the female and that they need psychiatric help..

(Yes, I'm serious about the last bit)

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read my post again.
There was no "risk"
When you make roof over your head you don't think of lighting hitting you.
You just make it because That is right thing to do... it need to be there..
when there is rain or no rain... light or no lightening..when you have bday party or.. sitting posting on GS... roof always there.
like that...

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Monk, are you secretly being coached by the artist formerly known as diwana? or maybe i just need my coffee..

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no I think I am in trouble.
I spoke about some extremely uncomfortable to every one including me.

I don't how to make a point with keeping it as far far away principle.

I will try not post any more.

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I'm sure that thinking will change once you have kids of your own. It's impossible not to hug and kiss them all the time :)

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relax. no one understood a thing. :\

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:omg:

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Monk, app ka Allah hi hafiz hai. Kuch pallay nahi para. I need coffee now :bummer:

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How would you (and other ladies here) feel if you are classified as a Pedo for wanting to hold, hug , cuddle with these 3 yr old kids.

http://fscomps.fotosearch.com/compc/CSP/CSP461/k4616761.jpg

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At all ages, no uncle is allowed to hold my kids, boys or girl in their lap or smooch. At times people are stunned by my response but then so be it. It was once a mini scene at disembarking a flight. A guy sitting next to me, who was friendly, touched my sons face while we were disembarking and were at the door, I jerked his hand away, he was shocked and said that he was just touching his face, coz he is cute, while moving his hand towards his face again, and I jerked his hand again, b4 he could touch him. All this while we were at the door of plane, flight attendants all gathered around us, thinking there is some sort of trouble.

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^ talking about your brother/ your wife's brothers - not random schumuchs.

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Please protect your sons as you do your daughters.

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I actually understood Monk’s post…

:teary1:

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^ the bestest post ever.

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My daughter has just turned 5 and she loves getting hugs and kisses which seems cute. But it bothers me. I have tried explaining to her not to hug or kiss any uncles/ men but she won't stop. She always goes out of get way when leaving to hug and kiss everyone.I don't know what to do. It doesn't bother hubby. Don't know what to do. She says but it's only chacha, meaning her dads bothers/cousins or friends as that's what she calls them all.

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^ She don't do that to male relatives of your?