How do you gals feel about this?

[parissenoor]

Re: How do you gals feel about this?

@Anil Khan

I think the problem that many of the western girls have is of insecurity. They know that its highly unlikely that they’ll marry a white or black guy, and if all the Pakistani men go back to Pak zameen to marry, they’ll be left out in the cold.

Am I right?

…no, their parents would complain, but there are lots lots of white and black muslim who would be happy to marry a nice desi gal:halo:…
let’s see if their mom who encouraged their son to marrry back home will accept to marry off their daughters to whites and blacks

[mulz]

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@skhan

What is sickening is a poor guy can’t ask for a paratha for breakfast before he goes to work so that he can feed your lazy ass and pay for your Ztv and long distance phone bills wasted on gossip.

:k: add following to your list- you can’t ask where she is going anytime cuz thats insulting to her although she cant yell at you for talking to a stranger girl at super mall, you shouldn’t object when she is gone to her ex’s house for a “cuddling” session, tons of dollars for makeup, you manage kiddos etc. etc., clean dishes after they have been cooked in microwave

[parissenoor]

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@mulz

:k: add following to your list- you can’t ask where she is going anytime cuz thats insulting to her although she cant yell at you for talking to a stranger girl at super mall, you shouldn’t object when she is gone to her ex’s house for a “cuddling” session, tons of dollars for makeup, you manage kiddos etc. etc., clean dishes after they have been cooked in microwave

if people don’t love each other why do they marry??

are arranged marriages the reason why guys keep on complaining about your wives?? whom you don’t love and who don’t love you either??

[Mehnaz]

Re: How do you gals feel about this?

@mulz

:k: add following to your list- you can’t ask where she is going anytime cuz thats insulting to her although she cant yell at you for talking to a stranger girl at super mall, you shouldn’t object when she is gone to her ex’s house for a “cuddling” session, tons of dollars for makeup, you manage kiddos etc. etc., clean dishes after they have been cooked in microwave

Wow, that is pretty lame. If that’s the kind of girl you are with or talking from your own personal experience, then I truly feel sorry for you.

[mulz]

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@MehnazQ

Wow, that is pretty lame. If that's the kind of girl you are with or talking from your own personal experience, then I truly feel sorry for you.

Mehnaz bibi, I have nothing against ABCDs- they are ambassadors of Pakistani culture in the west and they have made us proud(so far) but the fact that the attitude of them towards migrants who where not born/raised here is not good- atleast from my experience.. Indians who came to study and eventually got settled here share similar views. People like me who spent early years back home are certainly let down and dissapointed when they meet ABCDs as we are looked so down upon by em- we are held responsible for day-to-day humiliation as ABCDs suffer in the west. The ABCD girls think us as jaahils, hungry for sex and ignorants from the third world. They think that they will do ehsaan *by marrying us- again I wish I am mistaken for pointing out stereotypes here. *Nakhra is sweet and good but not if it means slapping us. Sorry if it hurts.. but I am just voicing my opinion.

[Sara516]

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^

[Mehnaz]

Re: How do you gals feel about this?

mulz, you aren't hurting me, don't worry. :)

Mulz, did you ever think that it's just how the girls react to you, personally?

[Barfee]

Re: How do you gals feel about this?

mulz some guys deserve it though, maybe if guys that come here to study actually studied and went back instead of looking for wives here, ABCDs wouldn't have the same view about them, right?
I am not even an ABCD but I made sure I stayed away from all fobs and its because of the experiences I have had with them.

[mulz]

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^ Thanks for understanding bibijee. Well, some girls have reacted to me like this and I try to change things ppl dont take well in me. Everything needs some pre-processing before being presented. We all have issues and shortcomings- we shud strive to correct em and not force our thinking and ideas upon others- well, I am hoping I am not doing it either :)

[Barfee]

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Well i told you exactly why they react the way they do.

[mulz]

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@Barfee

mulz some guys deserve it though, maybe if guys that come here to study actually studied and went back instead of looking for wives here, ABCDs wouldn't have the same view about them, right? I am not even an ABCD but I made sure I stayed away from all fobs and its because of the experiences I have had with them.

yes, some guys deserve it.. as I said earlier some guys(esp. FOB) are just looking for sluts or one-night stands. guys dont settle just for wives here- they settle for economic/professional reasons... since having a girl is part of life, they start looking around. Sorry bout your experiences- I had the completely opposite exp... maybe we are just right in our own views. no personal attacks here..

[Barfee]

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At the end of the day its all about understanding and I stronly believe that cant come from arranged marriages, only sacrifices do.

[Mehnaz]

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If anybody feels that strongly about it, be it marrying here or in Pakistan, then follow your heart. What causes such a reaction from people is when you say it's cause girls are sluts or cheap. Your own sisters, neighbours, cousins, etc. a lot of them live here and are nto like that. It's one of those terrible generalizations. It's like saying you won't marry a guy from Pakistan cause they all look malnourished and wear their super tight pants up to their chests or hold hands with other men and must therefore be gay. It's stupid.

[mulz]

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@MehnazQ

If anybody feels that strongly about it, be it marrying here or in Pakistan, then follow your heart. What causes such a reaction from people is when you say it’s cause girls are sluts or cheap. Your own sisters, neighbours, cousins, etc. a lot of them live here and are nto like that. It’s one of those terrible generalizations. It’s like saying you won’t marry a guy from Pakistan cause they all look malnourished and wear their super tight pants up to their chests or hold hands with other men and must therefore be gay. It’s stupid.

I would rather follow my mind, logic. I never said all ABCD girls are sluts or cheap- I was just echoing what I saw- my experience.. not necessarily what others see or will see.. But I loved :biggthumb your description.. again not stereotyping us, so called “fobs”.. but could be perceived/seen by many you have keen eyes cuz I never heard it before.

[dope]

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It's UN-fcking-FAIR to expect a man in his twenties and PRIME to come to the states, work to pay high tuition, study, do well, live in a shiithole, live an insanely lonely life, worry about his visa, live among all the slutty women, learn the language and then get a job--and not just any job, a stable job at that -- and not even browse porn and check out girls once in a while. Remember, all this has to be accomplished in six to seven year time frame without gfs, friends (men are not good at providing emotional support) and family, before he can go back to pakistan and ask daddy for his daughter's hand in marriage.

If you think this is possible MOST of the time and is expected, then you belong to the female species.

[Mehnaz]

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mulz, I haven’t seen it either … but a lot of girls complain about it. So you know, it must be true. :halo:

[mulz]

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@MehnazQ

mulz, I haven’t seen it either … but a lot of girls complain about it. So you know, it must be true. :halo:

That means they havent fobs like me

[Sara516]

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@dope

It’s UN-fcking-FAIR to expect a man in his twenties and PRIME to come to the states, work to pay high tuition, study, do well, live in a shiithole, live an insanely lonely life, worry about his visa, live among all the slutty women, learn the language and then get a job–and not just any job, a stable job at that – and not even browse porn and check out girls once in a while. Remember, all this has to be accomplished in six to seven year time frame without gfs, friends (men are not good at providing emotional support) and family, before he can go back to pakistan and ask daddy for his daughter’s hand in marriage.

If you think this is possible MOST of the time and is expected, then you belong to the female species.

I’m sure moving from Krooklyn to Manhattan was an awfully lonely and tough xperience.. its alrite.. just let it out..

[parissenoor]

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@dope

It’s UN-fcking-FAIR to expect a man in his twenties and PRIME to come to the states, work to pay high tuition, study, do well, live in a shiithole, live an insanely lonely life, worry about his visa, live among all the slutty women, learn the language and then get a job–and not just any job, a stable job at that – and not even browse porn and check out girls once in a while. Remember, all this has to be accomplished in six to seven year time frame without gfs, friends (men are not good at providing emotional support) and family, before he can go back to pakistan and ask daddy for his daughter’s hand in marriage.

If you think this is possible MOST of the time and is expected, then you belong to the female species.

…well all muslims are supposed to abstain from sex before marriage…wether you think of it as unfair or not is another thing:D

if a guy can’t abstain he’s supposed to marry asap:halo:

[Barfee]

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hahaha isn't funny when guys abstain from sex, its unfair, impossible but women are epxected to and if a girl was to say what dope said she would be labeled slut and unworthy to marry Anil Khan. JERKS.