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Why is that stupid? A woman finding a wife from back home for her son isn’t dissing the canadian born daughter at all, unless that was her intention. She’s finding someone for her son who she thinks is suitable. That is the duty of the mother. Or maybe her daughter is one of the reasons she doesn’t want her son married to a girl raised in the west.
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They should go back home and marry someone from there too. 
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It is stupid cause the mothers usually say yahan ki larkiyan kharaab hain and that's the reason why a lot of people go back to Pakistan to find a DIL (most, not all) ... yet they have daughters of their own born and raised here. Of course, it doesn't apply to their own kids .... just everybody else.
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inshaAllah i plan not to marry anyone from back home...and I know of proposals that I have gotten people are interested in girls here aswell...depending on the values the family or guy holds.
not everyone is as ignorant as Anil. :)
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How can you judge a person based on where they live? Anil..you are making this up.
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girls here are not all that shareef anymore,times are changing a lot of chics are going out on dates now in pakistan.But I don't believe in that definition of shareef,i don't think that not dating a guy or never having sex alone keeps a girl shareef,a lot of these so called shareef girls are not shareef at all in the sense that they are churails,and I would rather go for a slut than a rude blood suckiing shareef churail.lol
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yes a man can marry a slut only if he wants to n also abuse a women to death n humilition .. if he wants tooo
but times have changed .. women aren';t that easy any more .lol
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I don't think I was indirectly insulting them. I said, "yea, I'll probably go back to Peshawar or Karachi to get married" and they asked why, So I was like cause I feel the girls are too modern here. Now, some guys like modern girls and some guys (like me) prefer traditional girls. There was no negative or insulting implications there.
And I know that even in Pk there are western wannabes but thats why you just don't get married to a random girl. Get to know her and the family and inshAllah it'll work out. Also, the odds of finding a traditional girl back home are higher.
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It takes a whole lot of confidence to marry a girl from the west.
You know what I find funny is that once the guys do marry a girl from back home they try to mold her into a girl from the west.
Whatever floats your boat.
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this is the problem with desi culture, guy's and girls don't get to know each and then develop stereotypes about the other and make life decisions based on those stereotypes, there's nothing wrong with marrying a strong well educated woman with view's, as long as she's reasonable and willing to compromise, it's the stupid ones u gotta look out for, it can only lead to future trouble, but thats the thing, the guy and girl don't get to know each other so it's more or less impossible. As for girls from back home, i know plenty of stories about guy's who have gone that root, and they ain't all good.
Also, if ure well educated and ure marry an uneducated girl from pakistan, you'll probably end up loving her but u won't connect with her on an intellectual level, and chances are ure gonna turn to other women at work etc for conversations which u should have with ure wife, because u could end up getting close with these other women, and thats were the trouble starts.
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So I'm wondering, why do you girls get upset when a guy says he's gonna go back home to get married? I never said that I thought they were too modern; I was just talking generally and they had the nerve to get ticked off.
well they already answered ur q, and so did u urself. They know why u wana get married to a gal in PAk. Therefore they find it offensive + i think they know about ur double standards :p
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its wrong to say that girls r modernized, not religious, wild party girls, but i see where Anil is coming from, in U.S. theres no way of telling if the girl is sharif or not, cuz when the talk of marriage comes up they all act sharif, i'm probably going to go to Pakistan to get married, cuz even my mom says girls over here are too corrupt, dats a womans opinion people! i personally know a couple of instances where I thought a girl was all innocent & religious and then i see her with her boyfriend making out and spending the night @ their houses...i think its completely unfair for all the girls out there who r innocent and then have all the corrupt women competing for the good rishtas. i do agree that its not rite for guys to drink, and date, and expect to marry a sharif girl, but what about the sharif guys that want a sharif girl and not a slut to spend the rest of their lifes with. I personally will go with my moms choice, shes not had a choice with my two sisters and prolly wont with my older brother. time to make parents happy for once.
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^ Lol; bohat khoob. You know, one of these days Im gonna start a thread entitled "What do you guys REALLY think about Khan Aneel" and here you can let out all your frustrations that have been built up at my expense.
(Response directed towards Music Maniacs post and not Afridi bhai's)
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^ i will be looking forward to that thread :D
on a serious note, i think States actually have more religious paki gals than in Pak. If u havent been to Pak recently then u would be in a shock to c chics there. I have seen gals in their 20's wearing shorts in pak (Pak has been modernized a lot) and gals dont only have bf's here, lots of chics in Pak have um too, the only difference is its hidden in Pak but here everyone just does it openly.
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Alot of women say that about other grlz, simply to make themselves feel better about thier own offspring. I wonder how many women actually think their own daughters are corrupt?
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haven’t u seen the pakistan GT in the video section 
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I don't have words to praise some of the abcd girls I have met and the wonderful job their parents have done. Your actions should be based on your experiences not your fears.
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:k:
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You know what I find funny is that once the guys do marry a girl from back home they try to mold her into a girl from the west.
Whatever floats your boat.
Mold her into a girl from the west? How?
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AK, you just wanted to be roasted, what were you thinking posting this stuff here …lolz. Although we have picked bone in the past but I hope that doesn’t bias your reaction to my response here. I am making an honest attempt to make you realize why they felt/reacted that way, so hope you take it in positive spirit.
Well you got ur answers speaking loud and clear, though it may not have convinced you.
One thing clearly you insulted them indirectly. By saying that girls here are too mod, you implied all the Paki gals raised and educated here. It actually goes to express a view that all the Paki gals raised/educated here are incapable of becoming good wives (brains without wombs, lolz). So guys raised here go to PK to get married with desi gals coz gals in the West are too corrupt and incapable of being good wives. Well, so are their sisters then!!! Wake up mommies!!! Why wud even sharif Paki want to marry them corrupt gals (unless for a green card) …. But bottom line is they are no good, because they have been educated here, have a mind of their own, have opinions and they are not afraid to speak their minds.
Let’s turn the situation around: Suppose you were told by one of those Paki gal said, oh my parents want me to go to Pk to marry a desi guy from there. I don’t want to do that, since I think those desi guys are way too conservative (implying indirectly them as orthodox, power/control freak and dumb or may be “d” without brains lolz). Just think for a while, what wud have been ur reaction?? You wud have said, wait a second, not all are control freak, there are educated decent guys in PK too. OR if she had said, I don’t want to marry any Paki guy, they are just too conservative and control freak and one cannot have a decent intelligent conversation with them, for they are just not my level, u know. what wud you say?
What wud have been a smarter way of saying what you said without having incurred their wrath? You should have said, I want to go back to Pk to marry bcoz girls here are too mod for me. I cannot handle them smart, educated girls. I feel threatened. Voillah, there you go! You wud have earned their sympathies than anger. They would have said, oh that’s okay. Lot of men feel insecure by educated, smart and strong women, you are not the only one. Don’t worry, we know someone so and so and so from Lachi or Cheechu ki Malliyan and we can find you a simple submissive gal that You can handle (Ye aur baat keh kal ko taray nazar aa jayen ge din mein lolz)! You wud have earned all their sypathies and support, no problem there brother!
The fact is there are educated, decent Paki men who don’t feel threatened by educated and outspoken women and know that educated women raise the family intelligently. I have known Pk girls born/raised here who think that a woman should obey her husband since it’s expected of her in Islam. Just beacuse they are too confident and knowledgeable does not mean they cannot adjust and accommodate. I find Pk gals here much more knowledgeable about Islam, than those back home. I have heard way too many stories of how gals are behaving back home, that I’m too scared to even think of raising my children in PK. If I had children, I wud much rather have them educated, raised and married here than going back hoping to find a submissive one! In the end it boils down to the fact that a man or woman should marry someone who holds Islamic knowledge and values dear to their heart so that they can raise Muslim Children of good character.
May Allah (SWT) guide us all to the straight path, ameen!