Re: How do you gals feel about this?
Not so fast, lussi. Maybe this would be true in the 1950's, but not today. Modern day Pakistan is filled with lying, cheating, fornicating and club going girls and guys. They just keep it hidden from your eyes.
I think the parents of girls here in the west are more aware and vigilant of their daughters and know what tempations are out there. Because of this, it's actually harder for girls to sneak around. In Pakistan, parents are more ignorant of modern things, so when daughter says "I'm going to my school friend's house" they actually believe it.
My husband is Pakistani, born and raised there, and he tells me so many stories of the girls he went to school with. Many of them would sleep with their boyfriends (mind you, these are upper middle class and upper class girls from decent families). Some would claim to go to their friend's house, but instead would go with their boyfriends to the homes of mutual friends where they knew the parents were gone for weekend. They'd hookup in people's empty bedrooms. Or my favorite of how one guy made it a sport to sneak into various girls bedroom windows at night, and would sex it up right under the parent's noses. The parents never had a clue what was going on at 3 am in the next bedroom.
Nowadays, drugs and alcohol are flowing freely at parties (raves have become common there). Ecstasy is a problem. The Daily Times social editor wrote an article last year at how they get so many phone calls on Monday mornings from worried girls that "you guys were taking pictures at the party last night. Please, I beg you, don't print mine. I was with a guy/dressed scantily and I don't want my parents or husband or inlaws to know."
Divorce has also become extremely common. In the past year, we've had three divorces in our family back in Pakistan (in the past five decades, we had never had any--this is a first time occurrence), absolutely none for the family and friends here.
Just two weeks back, in Jang's women's advice column, a girl from Pakistan wrote in that she fooled around with her married boss, and is now pregnant. Apart from abortion, what are her options, she asks? Girl after girl write in each week about how they met guys online and were physical with them, but now the guy has cooled off, and boo hoo, what do I do? "I' m a shareef larki" they all cry.
My khala in Pakistan is absolutely livid at her housemaid, who first had an affair on her husband, divorced him, then started an affair with another guy, who now lives in the servant's quarter with her, without any marriage. My khala refers to the quarters at the "kanjarkhana."
This is modern day Pakistan. If you want a shareef girl, I suggest looking here first before leaping back there. I know so many pretty, humble, domesticated, educated and religious girls that are being overlooked because guys are making a mad rush to go back to find a wife simply because they believe the stereotypes.