How do you have an argument with your spouse without having the entire house hear you? Also, I find it sooo awkward when we are giving each other the silent treatment, no matter how much we try to talk to each other in front of others it’s still so obvious! How do all of you who live in a joint family system deal with personal issues?
Re: How do you fight with your spouse in a joint family system???
forks and knives work well.
You don't fight... and you don't yell....
you have a discussion/argument with your spouse like an adult.
And if ur a muslim, u must remember, raising your voice is disliked by Allah and his Rasool s.a.w.
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ok but even if you speak just a bit loudly, it's like the whole house can hear you! It's hard to walk away when you're boiling with anger. And forget about me, what do you do when your spouse doesn't care if someone hears and won't let you walk away?
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you do whatever yo ucan
and pray and hope that ur in laws are the tyep to mind tehir own damn business (well unless someones about to beat or kill someone)
I’m not married or anything but here is what I would do:
I might sound like a mullah but there’s no better way of controlling my anger than to recite Ayah’s and to remember the hadiths…
“The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.”
Muttaqun OnLine - Anger: According to Quran and Sunnah
That’s all u need to read up on and Inshallah u will never get angry n shout again… worked for me… and believe me I’m really short-tempered… I was so desperate I even tried the stress ball at one point!!! lol
Re: How do you fight with your spouse in a joint family system???
You have to be able to have a fight with your husband peacefully - as ridiculous as that may sound.
You guys have to set ground rules for your fights and play fair.
When you guys are calm...tell him no mater how loud or bad things get...family involvement is out of the question for both parties. Thats just the way it will have to work.
Dont be scared or walk on egg shells...its your home too.
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Go out in a park and fight it out . Don't hold this anger inside . Fight in a relationship is healthy . Shows communication .
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Yup, Ive actually seen couples fight in their cars if it comes down to it.
Yup, Ive actually seen couples fight in their cars if it comes down to it.
I never said anything about car . But whatever makes them happy :p
But back home I have seen things in car ... ahh ... Another story :D
Go out in a park and fight it out . Don't hold this anger inside .** Fight in a relationship is healthy . **Shows communication .
Fights are never healthy Namaan. Discussions are.
Re: How do you fight with your spouse in a joint family system???
i've actually seen a couple took their fight to a food court in a mall .. it was super awkward ... but yeah i guess discuss it in the car or soemtihng
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i cant even fight or complain............. my husband goes completely deaf n dumb and wudnt get normal for months even if i just try to register a complain . imagine what wud happen if i shout or fight. vvv clever *******. sumtimes i feel im with an object not a human being, n wit inlaws around i dont even try to look pissed even if i hav a serious complaint.
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Fights are never healthy Namaan. Discussions are.
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You're not married. It's important for couples to release frustration and share feelings. Fights aren't always bad.
You're not married. It's important for couples to release frustration and share feelings. Fights aren't always bad.
Agreed! I just don't like ppl knowing my business is all. One time we fought we got lectured by my FIL for not being more discreet abt it rolls eyes
Re: How do you fight with your spouse in a joint family system???
Fights as long as within the bounds of respect are very healthy in a relationship. I think they bring a couple closer.
I don't know how a couple fights in a joint family system! I need to let off my steam when I am angry and raising my voice helps :(
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I went with my family to a hi-tea buffet on valentine's day. There I saw a couple where the wifey was very angry , taunting husband , giving her mad looks and the poor guy was just trying to manao her and saying " sunaye tou , meri baat to sunay " lol I wonder what techniques these women use .
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loll ... i don't kno diamond if you wld wanna be in that kind of a relationship ... its not healthy all of us know htat ... and at some point in time ... one of htem is gonna snap and then more jhagree
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Who said this ??? Fights lead to making out and its is very healthy . Means how can you ignite so much passion without it :p
Re: How do you fight with your spouse in a joint family system???
when i fight with my husband or argue my sister in law gives me looks and interferes and supposedly she told my husband that if i argue with him one more time in front of her she is going to "show me" whatever thats supposed to mean