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What a hullaballoo!
I don't think that's the point hareem, she says the point is that he cannot make a decision for himself, he has to involve / consult them first in everything. In such circumstances it can be bothersome when you have grown up in an environment where you expect men to be independent decision makers.
Anyhow, thats my tuppence worth. I'm outta here.
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Wow....am I the only one that can see what Mamaof3 is talking about?
Seeing a man treated like a child is such a huge turn-off. I would have images of his mother feeding him mouthfuls and combing his hair at the worst possible (i.e. times of intimacy) times. This could take a huge toll on our relationship.
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I don't think there is anything wrong in physical affection between a son and his parents. Even feeding once in a while should be okay. Now, its another issue if the feeding is happening constantly or if the situation involves combing hair, clipping nails etc.!
I'm curious to know what men think about their wives if they are daddy's daughters and stuff..like sitting on his lap, hugging etc etc. Does that bother men?
Wow....am I the only one that can see what Mamaof3 is talking about?
Seeing a man treated like a child is such a huge turn-off. I would have images of his mother feeding him mouthfuls and combing his hair at the worst possible (i.e. times of intimacy) times. This could take a huge toll on our relationship.
ya but is it fair to dictate the level of affection between them just so you (general you) feel comfortable with it and not find it a sexual turn-off? isn't it seen as a bit controlling on the wife's part?
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^ Its not at all controlling buddy.
Its uncomfortable for a woman to see her man being babied, coddled and put to bed like a toddler. He is an adult now and should be treated as such.
How would you like it if your wife was fed all her meals by her daddy, had someone cut up her food for her in little bites, tuck her into bed and kiss her knee if she fell off her bike?
Its very cute and acceptable at one age...then it becomes creepy.
Comon people. That's an irritating level of babying. Next time he tries to have sex tell him you only do it with real men.
Ridiculous.
lol...PCG, you aren't married, r u? try saying that exact line to your husband once married:P
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its a feeling called possessiveness. All wives r mostly possessive.We can't share our man esp not with their moms...lol
hugs and kisses are important for under 7's....parents who don't stop babying their kids after that are OTT.
hareem I hope you stick to that theory with your kids!
Oho Ms.wife y have you become so contolling and possessive...u need to have ur space and give space to the better half as well. If a man has been living a certain way for 30 yrs and his family is way too sweet with him, or still babyz him, y don't u try and let it be? parents who have made everything out of that child, as you admit, and still love him that dearly, makes me think hez just soo lucky MA! relax and put your mind to more constructive things:) as long as he doesn't compromise on loving or pampering you, let it be.
as for sharing each n every detail, that needs to be talked about and reasoned with rationale. if sharing details about ur married life is involved then thats not on:)
*alright. next time you meet your mom or sister, make sure you don't hug them. *
People have different ways to show their affection/love. Some are more vocal, some are more physical and some just stay quiet but that does not mean they don't love. It totally depends on the family practice and has nothing to do with "babying".
For example, I have many friends who call their mom/dad "tum". like "mom tum kia ker rahee ho" (and have one who even call them "tu"). When I ask them, they just say they find it more "warming" and "bonding" just like friends, they just be it. That does not mean they don't respect their parents. Same is the case here.
i always think when i'll be with mom i'll put my head in her lap like a baby or massage her head n ask her to massage mine etc...we wives r just controlling n jealous...men really don't mind these things that much :)
lol...PCG, you aren't married, r u? try saying that exact line to your husband once married:P
PCG makes such comments only coz she's not married. once she is she will stop being so angry n blunt.
its a feeling called possessiveness. All wives r mostly possessive.We can't share our man esp not with their moms...lol
Just prepare for the day then when you will marry your son.
I guess I shouldn't worry about it too much. I've always felt that a guy is not "man enough" if he does that. But reading this thread, a lot of guys and girls feel that hugging and kissing parents is okay.
And no NJMasti.. his parents do all this with all their kids.. not just my husband. So I don't think his parents are doing it to show me anything.
Yeah its hard to change habits that are so strong. I just don't want my own kids to be like that.. mommy daddy type. My husband is very nice to me.. loves me a lot. Even his parents love me more than anything. I guess I just have to ignore the hugging kissing part.
yeah ... look at the brighter side of the picture ... ur in laws love ur husband .. and so do they love his wife and anything related to him.. try appreciating that. :)
Just prepare for the day then when you will marry your son.
oh yea all prepared ;) its a fact. female nature. wat to do !!!