Totally agree. And even for arguments sake you don’t have sex on the first night… well fine… but it will eventually happen… probably in a few weeks time. Because um yea you are now married and sleep in the same bed together. I think it is really creepy too and gives me the heebies jeebies to think about being in that position with someone I don’t know AT ALL. By the time one is ready to get intimate, there should be an abundance of luv, understanding, and trust between the couple. And these things only come with time and getting to know someone properly. Its not going to happen in one day or even a few weeks.
I mean… a girl her whole life has been told to guard her privacy like no other from men, etc. But then expected to sleep with someone (who is a stranger even tho he is your husband) once they are married??? I mean girls who have a good understanding with their guys and talk before marriage still have some sort of anxiety about this … but I literally cant imagine having to go through with this with someone you don’t even know much about. It just seems way too extreme to me … and yes… completley unromantic. And its not just even the act of physical intimacy either… its the fact that you are now sharing a space with a member of hte opposite sex. That privacy is completely gone that you grew up with and spent your whole life guarding … and I just imagine it to be awkward if it is with someone you dont know well yet.