Re: How do you decide????
why don't you girls visit some desi stores in toronto to see their selection and get inspiration?
or pick a jewellery set and design your outfit around that. or pick your favourite colour and design around that. all you need is a starting point to build around- it could be your favourite flower, an outfit you get lots of compliments on, a style you love (victorian, arab, olde indian, etc.)...
there are people in toronto who will also have your dress made for you. this is how i got my mehendi and wedding clothes. i believe this has been discussed elsewhere with phone numbers and addresses- can't remember the name of the thread though... anyone?