Your comments are well taken, but unfortunately they do not take into perspective the fact that..
- her devrani herself is committing gheebat by talking about her mother in law behind her back.
- the poster herself is committing gheebat by talking about her mother in law behind her back (on a public forum, of all places).
- We as the ‘audience’ do not have the right to judge her MIL, since we have only heard one side of the story.
The only thing I heard her say was that her MIL commented on the fact that the poster was wearing the same hoodie as before. How is that a bad thing? And how is that gheebat to begin with? For all we know, her MIL might have been suggesting that she should buy new clothes, and that she should care more about herself.
All negatives in this thread, based on what the poster heard from a third party. These are the kind of immature stances that destroy relationships. When a person is married, more maturity, patience, and regard is expected of him/her. Such minor issues (if they can be called that), dont deserve the time of day.
Its true…only a woman ruins another woman’s life. If the ‘complaint’ in this thread is to be taken hook, line and sinker, its the devrani who should be blamed, not the MIL.