how do you deal with...

[diamond321]

@redvelvet

When such behavior (backbiting) happens consistently/often…it can become problematic because it changes your perception of the offender and it causes you to lose trust in the person. And that’s harmful for relationships. PLUS, nobody wants their reputation marred in society.

I’ve read a hadith that slandering is WORSE than murdering someone. Because when you murder someone, at least the victim is there to try and defend him/herself. But when you slander someone’s reputation BEHIND THEIR BACK…the victim is not there to defend his reputation. So…no…it’s not an immature problem. Anything that involves your reputation is serious. What may not be a big deal to us could pose as a huge deal to somoene else. We try to give constructive advice…and if we can’t even do that…then we don’t respond. :halo:

Agreed ! It does hurt alot when some1 tries to damage your reputation like I said GHEEBAT has been forbidden by Allah for very good reasons.

But what I have learned from my life and life of others there is only an extent to which u can mess up with your inlaws esp MIL . Leave the matter on Allah and have faith tht He will do Insaaf and believe me He does Insaaf sooner or later.

I would be most worried if my MIL starts badmouthing abt me with my husband bcuz we all listen to our moms and we believe whatever she says is right and this is when MILs start changing minds of husbands and it does happen. It can even happen after a just 10 mins session of ur MIL with ur hubby , she may not directly say anything against you but can put things in ur hubbys mind by praising someone else …just watch out for that ! If that is not happening then plz don’t create problems in your life and plz dont mess around with your relationship with ur hubby. You will only help others in achieving their objective of making your life mess and upseting by doing all this.

As long as u and ur hubby r fine with each other let everyone else do what they want . When people will see how happy u both r with each other they will automaticaly change tehir perceptiob abt u !