When such behavior (backbiting) happens consistently/often…it can become problematic because it changes your perception of the offender and it causes you to lose trust in the person. And that’s harmful for relationships. PLUS, nobody wants their reputation marred in society.
I’ve read a hadith that slandering is WORSE than murdering someone. Because when you murder someone, at least the victim is there to try and defend him/herself. But when you slander someone’s reputation BEHIND THEIR BACK…the victim is not there to defend his reputation. So…no…it’s not an immature problem. Anything that involves your reputation is serious. What may not be a big deal to us could pose as a huge deal to somoene else. We try to give constructive advice…and if we can’t even do that…then we don’t respond. :halo: