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I just added the monstrous MIL alliteration for humor, lol. The MAJORITY of my advice emphasizes tolerance and respect. I think **Bubli **will understand from the BULK of my post that I do not have the intention to fuel her negative feelings and nor am I encouraging her to act upon them. She's a smart girl, and although she's upset.......she'll understand that most everyone is advising her to stay calm and act with prudence. :)