Re: How do you deal with this then?kanjoosi
Then I don’t know what to tell you Nadz. There’s a reason it’s called the high road…not only does it help you rise above the pettiness, the “high” bit implies that it’s a steep, uphill climb which is not easy.
I get sick of stuff too. We all do. We all have relatives/acquaintances with whom we have to grit our teeth and be polite in the face of their glaring insensitivity. Why? Because Allah SWT tells us to and because if we didn’t, it would just turn into a vicious circle of people constantly being awful to each other. You can stop offering stuff, you can stop calling…but then all that would do is add one more person who is not behaving so well (you) into the mix. And what will that solve? It will only lead to more tension and more arguments.
In a few months, you’re going to be a mother. What will you teach your child? That if someone treats you badly, then you do the same to them? I KNOW that’s not the lesson you want to teach your child Nadz…but you will if that’s the example you put forth.
It’s not easy, but truly the best solution is to show dignity and kindness in the face of thoughtlessness and insensitivity. Because doing so may at least make the other person think and change his/her behavior AND most important, it gives you a clean conscience…very important when it’s time to take stock and face everything you’ve ever done in your life.
Good luck honey. It’s Ramadan and I’ll pray for you. And make sure to make your own duas.