How do you deal with a guy who puts his ego/pride first?

canadiandesigirl · September 8, 2012, 2:19am

Re: How do you deal with a guy who puts his ego/pride first?

LOL! I promise you I am not being enthusiastic and adding fuel to the fire. Trust me, I am not one to easily suggest ending a relationship or something similar which would somehow make it worse. BUT the lewd comments are not that easy to look past. She should have not snooped and she was asking for trouble when she did that. I HAVE TOLD HER THAT! She says she would have typically never looked had it not been for the fact that they were fighting. To clear it up: they were fighting over other things where she was mildly at fault but** he used that as leverage to end the relationship. She was begging and was miserable and apologizing and then something made her want to search him up and then those comments popped up. And THEN that is when she decided she couldn’t trust him and decided to end it. Of course it’s easier said than done because after his explanation (he made it clear he wasn’t trying to fix anything because he was too ashamed after admitting he had written those comments 3 years ago and couldn’t face her after this admission**) she then decided what he did was forgivable. Especially when he had to confess to his mom and that’s why they are now trying to resolve their problems.

I’m sure I may have gotten some info a bit off but I will edit if I was incorrect. Anyways, the update is that he still is too ashamed to talk to her and is avoiding it still and she’s having anxiety and is severely depressed over it.

Re-read the bolded part and you will see why the guy is acting the way he is. He wants out. He always wanted out since the start of the fight but your friend begged him to not break up with her. Then she gave him another excuse to break it off - youtube comments. Now he says he is too ashamed but really this is just another reason - remember he wanted out even before your friend found out about the youtube comment. I’m really sorry if my response is harsh.