Asking on behalf of a member. I was PMd to ask this in private but here is the message from her in the quote. If she feels comfortable, she can answer questions in the thread or make a new account. Here is her concern with her boyfriend of a few years (they’re practically engaged):
What do you think? Personally, I think she’s in a relationship with a self-absorbed narcissist and this relationship is toxic but she says the good times outweigh the bad and he is her soulmate (something I can relate with) so I hesitate before saying to move on.
Re: How do you deal with a guy who puts his ego/pride first?
Because he had no remorse for his actions until he was caught/confronted and was willing to throw everything down the drain ("I can never face you again") and pretty much end the relationship because he was so ashamed. I understand being caught saying something like that several years ago and when you were young and dumb can be embarrassing, especially when you took pride in being the polar opposite BUT to end the relationship of several years because he's embarrassed seems excessive. Like, he put his ego and pride first and she's worried that that'll be what he will always put first.
Re: How do you deal with a guy who puts his ego/pride first?
How do we know he did not have remorse till he was caught? Maybe he was ashamed of posting that comment within 7 days of posting it.
lol...
I think like any girl, I'd be more pissed at the fact that he was even CAPABLE of writing such comments. I am assuming that's what made her confront him to begin with and being a typical guy who's afraid of confrontation he got very ashamed and embarrassed. Part of their fight was over him questioning HER and when the tables turned and with a lot more "dirt" on him he reacted the way he reacted.
I feel a headache coming on and I'm not even in the relationship. But I can relate to her so much knowing you dont want to end the relationship having come so far. Not saying I've wanted to end my relationship but when you fight so much it gets very tiring.
Re: How do you deal with a guy who puts his ego/pride first?
^Excellent point. But how do you get past what's already been done and the fact that it was done very early in the relationship when they were together?
Re: How do you deal with a guy who puts his ego/pride first?
The guy in OP's quote is not going to keep this relationship. He is not interested, additionally he might also found another girl. This anonymous guppan should move on. Reason, because guy is stressing on his own mistake.
