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Fraudia bhai, aap kneye grammar kee class lee thee keye nahi?
strong keye spellings dekhein.
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and you skipped all the hidden pride in that what i said to James bhand bhai for being a good caring man for his family. fair enough.
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JB, afterschool programs and short term nanny services are the ones that are most in your control without seeking others help.
but if you want to reach out and seek help from others, other kids parents can be the best option for the school situation.
for medical emergency situations, I would say talk to local police, community resources and the muslim/pakistani community ppl, masjid etc.
people are more than willing to help, but never get asked. if one of my nieghbours or someone even a couple minutes drive was in such a need and all he needed whas someone who can come and sleep on the couch while the dude takes his wife to teh doc, i will gladly do it.
even talk to ppl from your previous city social circle, someone's brother, sister, cousin etc may be in your area. this way u have a better idea of the people.
but be careful, no matter who it is, in the end its a stranger.
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:> Fraudia bhai, aap kneye grammar kee class lee thee keye nahi? strong keye spellings dekhein.
i would rather have bad spelling but a to the point response
and you skipped all the hidden pride in that what i said to James bhand bhai for being a good caring man for his family. fair enough.
he is a dedicated father, and he is looking for a solution.
really how would reading a book like strong fathers strong daughters help him with his current situation?
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fine. please dont read it.
thanks for the harshness.
i was simly just being of help.
thanks for being critical.
i am not a parent yet. thanks for rubbing it in my face.
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no one is rubbing you not being a parent in your face.
niether was I being harsh and critical.
and u only come back with this issue with harshness/critique after my last post not the first time around.
I simply noted that its obvious the lad is in real need right now and needs practical ideas he can implement right now, assumign stuff like whether he has a daughter first and then that he should read strong fathers strong daughters.
you have asked for advise too, in numerous threads and when it does not relate to your question or need you have noted how it is really not of use. Please dont take it so personally.
PS: had I wanted to be harsh I would have done a slashjob on these sentences of yours, but I did not and am still not doing it ----> "do some gardening now that spring will come: and -----> "but what you are doing and doing it right, creatively, can prove to be help for the next generation of parents and family women and family men"
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i said if he has a daughter. then he can read the book. i did not assume that he does.
i cant believe this coming from you.
thanks.
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i said if he has a daughter. then he can read the book. i did not assume that he does. i cant believe this coming from you. thanks.
no really dushwari, how would you feel if in one of your threads someone showed up skapped your back said hey youa re doing a ghood job and you need to read some random book.
u cant believe its coming from me? becauswe you are taking it as some personal assault from me, whereas as a friend I was simply drawing your attention to the fact that sometimes well meaning advise that does not answer teh question is really of no help.
you have received it..havent you, where u post soemthing and u see a response and you wonder..huh?
again, nothing bad intended, just wanted to draw your attention to it.
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This might sound a bit alien to desis, but consider calling a cab for the kids to school. If it's a 10 minute walk, its probably a 5 minute drive and not more han $5 cab fare one way. Thats around $100 a month if the kids take cabs everyday- a price that i think is not too much given your situation.
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he said cope and that does not translate to solution of the cut and dried kind.
sometimes in life, Fraudia bhai, one must step back and be able to clear up the shallow ness that comes about because of being overwhelmed... simply by being able to look at the positive, lighter things in life and reviving one's strength.
that is what i was implying.
my sugestions to james bhaand, were meant to be for encouragement, nothing else. it was not supposed to be a parenting course.
and you are going on with a thrasher. fine. i wont disrespect you.
i respect you.
no really dushwari, how would you feel if in one of your threads someone showed up skapped your back said hey youa re doing a ghood job and you need to read some random book.
u cant believe its coming from me? becauswe you are taking it as some personal assault from me, whereas as a friend I was simply drawing your attention to the fact that sometimes well meaning advise that does not answer teh question is really of no help.
you have received it..havent you, where u post soemthing and u see a response and you wonder..huh?
again, nothing bad intended, just wanted to draw your attention to it.
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^ that would be $200 a month for both ways…
i thought about that the minute i read this thread but didnt mention it because to some $100-$200 a month might be stretching it and i dont know what JB’s financial situation is like.
but still…a good idea for a temporary solution. :k:
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I didnt do two-way because they wont always have to take the cab back. The real problem is getting them to get to school early in the mornings. In the evenings usually people have more time.
But even if its $200 a month i think its still worth the convenience. Usually when people are having a hard time accepting an unforseen expense i tell them to just close their eyes and imagine they got a $250 speeding ticket. :-p
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Cheegum. thats a good point. actually I had a set cabbie who picked me from home when I was travelling weekly for consulting. and just before he picked me he dropped some kids to school who had a long term arrangement with him.
the option is cheaper than a nanny or midwife, and if it is just for a few months it does not have a huge financial impact.
JB- if u do that please do a couple of things, go with a large established cab company, talk to local police, some companies are better at screening people. def try to have the same cabbie pick them up. give the kids a cellphone be on the phone with them as they are in the car.
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I didnt do two-way because they wont always have to take the cab back. The real problem is getting them to get to school early in the mornings. In the evenings usually people have more time.
But even if its $200 a month i think its still worth the convenience. Usually when people are having a hard time accepting an unforseen expense i tell them to just close their eyes and imagine they got a $250 speeding ticket. :-p
what 8 and 10 yr old comes home from elementary school in the evening? :P
i figured JB would be at work and of course the mrs can't pick them up due to their condition which is why i thought the 2 way fare should be added. Regardless....like you said it'll be worth it.
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Cheegum. thats a good point. actually I had a set cabbie who picked me from home when I was travelling weekly for consulting. and just before he picked me he dropped some kids to school who had a long term arrangement with him.
the option is cheaper than a nanny or midwife, and if it is just for a few months it does not have a huge financial impact.
JB- if u do that please do a couple of things, go with a large established cab company, talk to local police, some companies are better at screening people. def try to have the same cabbie pick them up. give the kids a cellphone be on the phone with them as they are in the car.
good point.
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Yup
talked with cheegu
cab is a good idea - will settle this within this week
AE I am not a millionaire (working towards it 
) , but this is one of those situations where money is no issue. If it has to be done - It HAS to be done.