So when one is going through an ordeal in life, or a tough moment, what remedies do you practice to avoid going insane? Do u cry, mope around, try to put a brave face on, toughen up, swim in the Egyptian river of Denial etc etc?
Mine is cracking jokes at it’s best: around immediate family, taking them out for dinners, spending lavishly any luxury money can buy. Keeping a light heart, doing funny things, watching funny things, being a part of anything funny :no: Unfortunately, its good for the self but sometimes its good to be serious around others too since it can back fire the trying to keep a ‘light’ atmosphere:smack:
It really depends on situation ,sometimes to lighten the stress you can be funny but in some situation you have to be serious and quite for some time. I don't like rona dhona ,mourn kerna.
cracking jokes and cheering people up is a good thing but I need to be careful when I do that … sometimes, people get irritated of that too because there is often so much going on…
What I do, I normally tell them to read Surah Doha and its context/background… That Sura was revealed on Prophet:saw2: at the time when he was going through a depressing period. Then, there are so many ayaat in Quran (like surah baqarah has a whole section on how Allah tests us through different things… and all) … It works for me and for most of the people I talk to…
i think AQ gave the best answer, i have tried that and thats the "ONLY" thing that works for me.
First of all i never let anyone know that i m tensed or depressed. and in normal days i pray when Salah time is almost about to end but in tensed time i start praying right on time and recite "Ina lilahi wa ina ilaihi rajioon" and "ya hayiu ya qayoom" alot. and i can assure anyone that if u do all this with pure intention and from the bottom of ur heart, Allah is gona help ya and ur sorrows are gona vanish Insha Allah.
Back to the topic. When I am going through a tough time, I try to keep my mind away from BUK BUK that's bothering me :(
and yeah like Sajal said, try to act normal :@:
For some odd reason, when there is some sort of trauma/sadness around me and everyone else is in grieving mode...I cant cry. I feel like they're depending on me to be strong so I cannot break down.
If I personally am sad about something, I get really quiet and withdrawn. I need time to get over it first. :(
well m like dat tooo..
N yes sumtimes i have tried this shopping therapy too n yes it helped . :biggthumb
But i think dat effects of being happygola doesnt stays for long…it mite help forgetting the blues…but sooner or later u have to deal wid it using logical reasoning!.
now dats wat i call Healing of Soul…the rite point from where to cope!
I prefer to live alone and try to weap silently if possible otherwise I start thinking with blank mind. I try not to talk to anyone because I get out of words when i am sad.
I try to think something good and positive about the future and try to give "tasallee" to myself. it often works but not really effective
Thank you to all of you for ur input Ume Zafeerah, AQ, EcoShan, Sajal, Clemy, PSquared, Tink, Elegance and Shining Star… I pray none of you go through any hurt and only bliss touches your lives. Ameen.
I want to reply, a great lenthy philosofeekal one, but I’m in too much of a hurry to sit down and write out a well thought one right now.
My father is shifted to a hospice, fighting his last… he’s diagnosed with the rarest form of cancers…Pericardial Mesothelioma. Its been an uphill climb not easy at all …
at the moment I’m going to request you all that pray for another fellow human that whatever remaining time he has that Allah makes it easier on him. Ameen.
i just shutdown my self, dis connect from the world and sleep for few days. . . after few days i completely forget everything
and thats what i hate .. the forgetting part. . . then commit the same mistake again, feel sorrow again. . .and again. . .shutting down … havent able to get out of this loop yet and now a day i m … .. .
any way may Allah makes it easier for ur father and ur family
^ Our prayers are with you Daring V. We pray that may Allah give your father a healthy, speedy recovery through his ultimate mercy… Howallaho Ash Shaafi wal Kaafi… Aameen.
wow… u guys are fast. Thanks AQ, JazakAllah. Allah apko dozakh mie kahbi bhe jaga na day but instead of Janath mie am i sounding like Meera here? :no:
Lafi
^ Shutting down is not good.
*kicks Lafanter in order to reboot *
ps. Voops, do u think its a good idea to put up my thread as a sticky postit? AQ was that u:hmmm:
Cuz I’m so silly, and now do I have to be all serious? *gulps
Ume Zafeerah, AQ, EcoShan, Sajal, Clemy, PSquared, Tink, Elegance and Shining Star… I pray none of you go through any hurt and only bliss touches your lives. Ameen.
and now a day i m … .. .
give your father a healthy, speedy recovery through his ultimate mercy… Howallaho Ash Shaafi wal Kaafi… Aameen.
Shutting down is not good.