How do you address your mother in law?

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An aunty who is a distant relative of ours came over for chai and chat with my mum and she has 3 daughter in laws. She was telling my mum that 2 of her daughter in laws call her ’ Amma/ammi’ and one of her daughter in law calls her ‘aunty’ we know this daughter in law she is my first cousin and the aunty was saying that she sometimes feels a slight resentment towards to daughter in law who calls her ‘aunty’ and the relationship as a result isn’t fantastic but with the other daughter in laws its great as a result she hardly visits that sons house and now the son keeps getting angry at his wife and saying just call her ‘ammi’ and now the husband wife relationship is strained (according to my cousins mum-my khala)

If it was me I would just call her ‘ammi’ to smooth things over with my husband and then if i really wanted to I would call her whatever i wanted in my head if i really needed to vent.

Im just venting on here because my cousin is being so annoying and ziddi for no reason what so ever.

But maybe the MIL should just get over it too?

how do you address your MIL, does it really matter anyway?

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meri ammii nahiiN haiN is liye i will call her **'ammi jaanaaN'**** inshaa Allah :D**

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My mother died before I got married so I called her ammi. She also died recently. She was very nice lady , may Allah give high place in Jannat. Ameen.

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nott married yett .. but i call my goin to b mother in law .. ammi .. only cuz she told me too .. :@:

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i also think that the cousin is being a bit ziddi, what's the harm in calling her ammyi if it's the mother in laws' wish and the others call her that too ...
my mum felt awkward to be called aunty ji by my sister in law so she asked her to call her Khala (we don't use the word aunty) , but she calls my dad uncle ji as he doesn't mind.
my fiance want me to call his mum ammi ji but i'd feel weird, i don't know.. i'll just ask her what she prefers

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Saasu maa.

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Ami Jaan or Ami Jee.

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Big Boss

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Why should she call her Ammi...when she is not the ammi?? why should the DIL be forced to give somebody the respect and love for a parent to a person who is not her parent??

MIL can go to hell if she doesn't like being called aunty

nuff said

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^ha ha. sarcasm much?

i don't think it really matters.

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“and now the husband wife relationship is strained”

ALL because she doesn’t want to call her MIL, Ammi??!!??

:rolleyes:

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This is what you call her

"Ni Sassay"

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yup :S I think everyone is over reacting in this situation.

The MIL probs complains to her son who then complains to his wife and husband and wife get annoyed at each other

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Why would you force someone to call you ammi. =\ It's like a false sense of respect.

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You see........MIL is the root of the problem......

MIL will find something else to turn her husband against her if not this 'ammi' thing...

The sense of respect for MIL always false....true story :D

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DIL should call MIL "ammi" because she is mother in law.

If nothing else call her "Qanooni Ammi Jaan"

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All the girls who are saying they will call their MIL "ammi" for the sake of peace.....that's so cute and nice and all :) but what if ur husband calls ur mom aunty and ur forced to call them ammi....not so cute nad nice now is it.

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:rotfl: Nomi I have all my sympathies for you. You seems to be most experience guy in marital issues for a guy who is not yet married. :@:

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I appreciate it :smiley: :smiley: :smiley:

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Yep call her that and she will soon request her to go back to aunty.