how do u..

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Re: how do u..

@lahori99

I’m NOT married but this is what i’ll do.

I would not share** my money** with her. If i am working, why can’t she? If you gonna bring in Islam gives woman the right to choose then she better follow everything else islam tells woman to do.
I’ll give her money but my money better be spent on needs rather than her wants. No shopping, traveling, giving gifts etc with my money
Why would she need to know how much i am making as long as household needs are met and lil more.

Allah mujhe aise mardo seh bachaaye. AMEEN!

Choosing between marrying a guy like you or staying single my entire life, I would without a doubt stay single.
Maybe you should read a little about Islam and its principle about a woman in a household.
If you as a single man cannot respect a woman then how will you end up being as a married husband? :S Bechari lardki who’s gonna marry YOU!
By having that kind of an attitude wont help anyone. She is equal to you not your slave or kid.
Seriously, How old are you?!

I would definitely work even if my husband wouldn’t feel the need. But if I anyhow chose not to work and stay as a housewife my entire life (which I can’t imagine myself being as) I would still expect integrity and respect from him.

I totally agree with PrinceMS and Coolgirl!

@PrinceMS

Best system I found (either she working or not):

Have one joint account and all your money goes in there. This is essentially your savings account.

Have a second joint account and a set amount get transferred from your first account automatically (which covers your planned and unplanned expense).
Either one of you can do whatever with first account but have to keep the other person aware of what you are doing (of unplanned expense).
You ONLY goto second account when the other person agrees as well - you don’t touch the 2nd account without the consent of the other spouse!

I believe, if you can’t make this system work - then you got bigger issues to work with (discipline / trust / etc).

@coolgirl

Here is how our system works.

We both have a joint account that we keep. Hubby manages all the fianances but he has never stopped me from spending money anywhere. Every once in a while he lets me know the big expenses we have coming so I can watch my bills from dinning, movies and shopping.. I don’t think it’s respectful at all to have to give your wife money whether she is working or not. If husband makes enough money why would you send your wife out to work, unless she chooses to herself.

Secondly, being a wife and taking care of house chores, cooking and social aspects of life is well enough a job that most men run away from.. So for GS men that said they wanted to give money only for bills I am wondering if your wives didn’t pay you a dime for cleaning house, cooking, looking good for them would you be okay with that?? worth thinking about!!