In college, I remember, even if they’ve had a death in the family or breakup with their fiances fellow guy student friends used to to be able to go to the library and put their total concentration on the work or studying that they need to do.
how do most men or some men do that? how do they separate work from emotional pain or whatever distraction it is that’s bothering them?
if i’m going through some major emotional issues, i think about it all the time, my mind has to fight to concentrate.
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my own personal experience seems to suggest that “some” men ..dont appear to work thru their emotions- they either block out, shut down or refuse to address the issues at hand… OR they behave in a manner that suggests maybe its all in YOUR head and everything is just fine!!..
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I punch things.
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We all react in a different manner. Some of us are more stoic and don't reveal our emotions. Some of us wear our hearts on our sleeves and don't have a problem showing emotion. It really depends on the person, their upbringing, their environment, the situation, and what stage of life they are in. There isn't a hard and fast rule for all of us.
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for some reason i’ve only seen the men that are in total control of their mind and body and able to pull through and ace things 
it sux, i watch them in awe
how does punching things help with working out whatever distraction or emotional pain you have on your mind though, that only takes care of the physical frustrations. if there’s an important paper to write or some other important work that has to be done at the office, i’ve seen men throw everything out of the doors of their minds and concentrate on that important class work or work at the office. tell me your secrets 
it’s this blocking and shutting out of emotion/distraction that’s a talent and i wish i could learn it.
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**Nisha.. great points:k:.. how about men as effective communicators??? **
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If it’s about our upbringing, then the both of us should be crying our eyeballs out on a daily basis
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it's this blocking and shutting out of emotion/distraction that's a talent and i wish i could learn it.
In a lot of people who do that, the problems eventually resurface, and then makes life much harder. It's better to just let it out when it happens. Or one can just have a hard heart, where emotions have never played much part of your life. But then I say, what's the fun in that really. The pain makes the better times more sweet.
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that’s so true but the pain will make the hard times very hard and won’t let a person concentrate on those things that will bring about the better times. don’t know whether that makes sense but i like what you said in bold. btw, are u a man? that was seriously very deep
most men as effective communicators in terms of their feelings and what’s on their mind? i haven’t come across one like that but then again i haven’t been around too many men, just my fellow students.
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are u a man? that was seriously very deep
Yes. Strange, right, that a man can express and understand emotions? :p
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we are made like this :D
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believe me there aren’t too many men like that out there, i have not come across one like that. a man that expresses and understands emotions and that too a woman’s emotions and feelings(if that’s what you meant), wow :k: i’m serious
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we are made like this :D
you obviously haven't experienced any emotional issues like falling in love or going through anything painful that would mess up your emotions. :p if you have i'll give you cash for the secret, come on out with it.
it's in our desi blood to bribe, that' s all i have.
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grunt
Eat.
Hungry.
Emotants? What that?
scratch
spit
Hurt..no good....
scratch another place
snort
Work...hard
belch
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***Its called their " Nothing Box"…
…they have the ability to categorize emotions and events and therefore better able to suppress thoughts and feelings …***
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In a lot of people who do that, the problems eventually resurface, and then makes life much harder. It's better to just let it out when it happens. Or one can just have a hard heart, where emotions have never played much part of your life. But then I say, what's the fun in that really. The pain makes the better times more sweet.
i agree:)
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actually its how guys are brought up.....like ignore stuff that causes problem in ur head.....like if u wanna cry everyone tells u don't cry......girls crying is not much of an issue.....
so actually by the time guys mature they have been trained to suppress their emotions n all that......
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actually its how guys are brought up.....like ignore stuff that causes problem in ur head.....like if u wanna cry everyone tells u don't cry......girls crying is not much of an issue.....
so actually by the time guys mature they have been trained to suppress their emotions n all that......
i agree with the above statement. but i also believe that men will cry alone but not in front of anyone. personally wether it's a death or brake-up sharing is a no go area and when it's time with the family we perfect the fake smile. even when i'm in pain, ill i wont tell anyone. i guess it comes from my dad, who is also like that...
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From my own experience I buried myself in my work, This is after we lost our twins in 04, the rest of 04 and much of 05 is a blur. In general things were hid quite well and I did not lean on anyone. Only person who saw me breakdown was my wife. and only place I opened up to some extent was on GS.
In hindsight it was not the right approach, I did not deal with it, but pushed it back and later I had to deal with the loss and accept it.
I have very few memories of 2004 and 2005 which are not work related, I was traveling extensively for work nationally and internationally, and aside from my brother's wedding, I cant tell you anything from personal life from that era. Thats how bad that it got, but people around me did not know, and even for most ppl on GS, no one knew what a mess I was.