Re: how do Men work through Emotional Issues?
i'm sorry about your loss
so you went into complete denial mode in order to actually deal with it and get work related stuff done too? honestly i think i would've completely broken down
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Not denial mode..escape mode, I had to be doing something at all times, to just not be alone with my thoughts. I could not look at their pics, or enter the room where we had all their stuff.
I had someone move all the stuff in a closet before we got back from the hospital and that closet sat like that for years.
At times I overestimated myself, I recall I had to get the house ready for my brother's wedding since everyone would be at my place before the wedding, I went and opened the closet and just stood there, frozen and unable to function. begum came and closed the closet told me not to torture myself and that
we both had our own ways of coping with it, for me it was keeping busy for begum it was shopping.
It took some time to find normalcy, and in hindsight, I probably needed grief counseling or something to help with it sooner.
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I'm so sorry for your loss brother. You have my deepest condolensces. I can't even imagine... hugs
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Puts on his shrink glasses
Well the reason why most men don't express their emotions and deal with their stress (whatever it may be) is due to what society has imposed on males.
Girl falls down. Aww my little princess! Come to mommy! Come to daddy! Aww kya hua? Meri Jaan, idhar aao...
Boy falls down. Hey now, boys don't cry do they? You're mummy's/daddy's soldier! Brave boys don't cry! You're strong, see, this pain is nothing!
The majority of boys and girls get treated this way. This response and the expected reaction conditions the male and female brains. As boys and girls become men and women, this takes the form which you are pondering upon.
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wow(i say that a lot but i really mean it this time), is that really the case. so it’s just an issue of being conditioned by society to always suck it up and act like nothing affects a man. even in the movies the big burly guy crying is something that’s comedic. Poor sweet men 
but it’s a good quality to have though, if you think about it, yes it’s better to let out all that pent up emotion but in life sometimes we don’t have time to deal with major traumatizing issues so sometimes sucking it up at that particular time has to happen or we lose a job, do poorly in classes, don’t make a deadline.
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It does help really… and I’m not even a man. I punch my frustration (mental) all the time… into my pillow :faris:
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I punch things.
I kick homeless people.
Also, men are like vampires. We have an on/off switch.
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tough it out! and cope with it. be patient and trust Allah knowing that everything happens for a reason. **wasta'eeno bis-sabr-i was-salaat...seek peace thru patience and prayers.**
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Hmmm....I go brain dead for a few days. I prefer my solitude for such issues. During that time it is just being a zombie, listening to heavy metal music and a whole lot of sleep. Once I am set within my own mind I discuss it with select friends.