How do "married off" daughters take care of their parents

[arshad5]

Re: How do “married off” daughters take care of their parents

@Reha

Arshad, :hinna:

Daughters are never responsible for the inlaws. Its just a desi thing - nothing more than that.

What I dont understand is…why do guys like you feel your parents are not worth your own time? You go through the trouble of marrying someone so THEY can take care of your parents - but you wont do it when its actually YOUR responsibility? Why?

Your wife gets ajar for what she does BUT you are not relieved of your role and still will be held accountable for everything she did and you didnt.

Ok daughters are not “responsible” for in-laws. I take “responsible” to mean that the daughter does not live with the in-laws, and neither she cooks for them or washes their clothes. Yet our all knowing “Islamic” sisters would like to do all the above for their parents after marriage? Because Islam says so, that she must look after per parents only. Do you see my point? Its sad when people complain about people using Islam and practising hindu customs, and at the same time these same people use Islam to also do things that are un-Islamic.

@Reha

A lot of our cultural practices are ridiculous in nature and thats a fact. Yeah, its our culture but its not entirely compatible with Islam.

Islam does not stop anyone from being a good human being. Any traditions or customs that don’t stop me from being a good human being, I am proud of even if someone calls them “dogmatic hindu customs”. This is my cultural heritage.

@Reha

Joint family system and DIL doing khidmat of her inlaws versus her own living and breathing parents who have a right over her IS a hindu custom.

after marriage what khidmat you want to do for your parents? you are of those type of people that complain about your brothers and sisters-in laws and how they treat your own parents and yet want to act in the same way as your sister-in-laws to your own in-laws. What goes around comes around.