Re: how do i react to this?
but why not? i apologize to my mother when she hits the roof even when she’s wrong to do so… i always apologize and the unsaid words after the apology is for doing something that made you go in a state that caused your BP to rise…even though I wasnt wrong… i made you upset and i apologize for that… she never gets to hear that part but thats ok…apologizing to her does not in any way belittle me… why can we not accord the same courtesy to an MIL?
i think its not bad at all for nadz to apologize…if she doesnt want to apologize she can at least go talk to her and be nice… old people are like kids anyways…they will throw a tantrum over nothing and its not necessarily meant to dominate the DIL specifically… it cna be anybody… I wanna know does this MIL of hers only yell at nadz? if so then I agree nadz shouldnt apologize but if the MIL is the same with everyone else too then i dont think there is discrimination directed specifically at nadz so there would be no harm in apologizing or at least trying to make amends
nadz if you think she was upset because you guys ate out you either should not have mentioned it or you should have brought some food back for her and said hey mom sorry you had to take care of the baby for so long we kinda lost track of time while we were shopping for necessities… and we got hungry so we stopped to eat…but i kept thinking about you and missing you so i brought some food back for you… neck time it would be nice if we all went out or something…give her a peck on the cheek and a hug
i realize you feel that you left your baby with the daadi whats the big issue…but you never know how frustrated the daadi might have gotten cuz she aint used to babies anymore and no one has the stamina for a baby that is not theirs… maybe ur baby cried alot maybe the daadi developed a headache cuz of the incessant crying…maybe daadi needed to do some things but cudnt cuz she was afraid that while the baby was under her care if she left it alone for a minute and somehting happened to it how would she face her DIL…maybe just maybe she took all the frustration out on you and didnt even think that you ahd gone out after a week and it wud take you long…all she cud think about was its ok to leave the baby with me but not for such long periods of time…its stressful to take care of someone else’s baby
there is no need to prove to your hubby that your MIL is always behaving like this…he stuck up for you…that’s enough…whats the sense in trying to prove that anyways? what would it accomplish… why not just let your MIL’s behavior roll of your back after all she is not making ur life miserable to the extent that even ur hubby is not on ur side and if you are constantly bitter about how your MIL behaves and want ur hubby to see it too it will only have a negative emotional effect on you and no one else
forgive me for the long post…im jsut trying to put out a fire 