ok so people know theres trouble brewing with the MIL, anyway last night me and hubs went out shopping, i havent been out shopping for a week ( HERE in pak, the shops are far and u need a car, and plus it snot normal to just pop out to the shops here) so i needed a few things plus stuff for the baby, etc. we left at 7pm came home by 10…
his mum hit the roof. she said tumhe koi fikr nahi hai apni baby ki, you lot r shopping and mazey say pirr rey ho, while u dnt care if your daughters had her milk or not…where were u etc etc…she said this to me first, i was upset, as i felt we had left baby with her daddi, obvioiusly i was wrong. she also then had a go at my husband when he tried to defend me/us and he said why u always having a go at nadz, she went off on one.
anyway my FIL is great, he saifd he will samjaa her. husband also said we wont leave baby alone anymore.
ok.
now today, shes ill.
now this isnt normal. she always does this.everytime someone says something to her, shes ill the next day meaning we all have swoon after her and instead of her apoligsing, we have to because she makes oit out like shes a victim…its happned before where she will have a go at someone, as soon as they respond, the next day she will fone and say how bimmar shes bcome…so the other person goes running to her aid…
i knew she would do this drama today, so now i have to go AND talk to her rather than the other way round…
plus if she really was sorry, she wouldve text me and told me shes sorry, she instead text her son and gave him a speech on how mazloom she is, and say sorry to nadz for me…
this is all her drama.how can i explain to hubs shes not really ill at all. i know her.
She is just evil women, who work all day in the office, cooks when she is back and then just shout at you.... she is evil by all means...you cannot do anything.. the evil women (ur MIL) has cast a spell on your hubby, so he just don't work at all and does nothing, i think the part of spell is on you as well... that you couldn't go out for whole looooooong week... you must do something about your MIL... she seems to know witch-craft....
She's old, let her be a drama queen. If your hubby isn't on the same page as you on his mothers "illness" than don't force him to be, considering you'd be going out of your way to bad mouth his mother.
As for MIL, " kal to app bilkul theek thi, chaloo I think app ko doctor kay paas jana chaheye. Ya koye medicine to nahi chaheye?
its not that, i had to go out as wer needed babys milk and stuff plus in pak, theres a lot of traffic and its far, i think what p**sed her over the edge was that we ate outside alone, and she didnt like it.
OK Nadzz first thing don't expect her to apologize to you even if she is wrong she will not say sorry to you and I believe she shouldn't too. She did wrong and her son and her husband has already taken your side and she should really not be saying sorry. Not because she is your MIL but because she is your elder. Our parents too sometimes get angry on us without a valid reason do we ask them to say sorry ? It's completely wrong and unethical to expect her to say sorry I mean the lady is an equal member of your house and not someone lower than you.
She did wrong when she got angry at you and your husband. BUT your husband dealt with the matter.
May be she is ill may be she is not ill give her the benefit of doubt. Leave the matter on Allah ! You don't need to explain to your husband anything it's between him and his mother. He also should not ask you to apologize because in what you have written above you haven't mentioned that u dd any badtameezi with her so why say sorry ? Give the matter some time she won't be ill for the rest of her life.
Nadzz your inlaws are nice with you believe me they are very good with you. Learn to ignore their mistakes. Even when you are living with your own parents things are not 100%.
but thats the thing, she usually loves having baby with her all the time, she doesnt even like it when baby comes to me, yet when baby goes to FIL, hubs or my SIL, she loves it and will say oh deko shes going to her dadda/abu/phupo yet when she comes to me, she saysyeh cos she wants her mik/change her nappy etc thats why.....
but thats the thing, she usually loves having baby with her all the time, she doesnt even like it when baby comes to me, yet when baby goes to FIL, hubs or my SIL, she loves it and will say oh deko shes going to her dadda/abu/phupo yet when she comes to me, she saysyeh cos she wants her mik/change her nappy etc thats why.....
bolnay do nadzz you will be her mother and no body can take that place. See you believe that your MIL is evil and chalak and dramay bazz but your husband still loves his mommy. Kiyaa farq parta hai kay koi kiya kahta hai.
OK Nadzz first thing don't expect her to apologize to you even if she is wrong she will not say sorry to you and I believe she shouldn't too. She did wrong and her son and her husband has already taken your side and she should really not be saying sorry. Not because she is your MIL but because she is your elder. Our parents too sometimes get angry on us without a valid reason do we ask them to say sorry ? It's completely wrong and unethical to expect her to say sorry I mean the lady is an equal member of your house and not someone lower than you.
She did wrong when she got angry at you and your husband. BUT your husband dealt with the matter.
May be she is ill may be she is not ill give her the benefit of doubt. Leave the matter on Allah ! You don't need to explain to your husband anything it's between him and his mother. He also should ask you to apologize because in what you have written above you haven't mentioned that u dd any badtameezi with her so why say sorry ? Give the matter some time she won't be ill for the rest of her life.
Nadzz your inlaws are nice with you believe me they are very good with you. Learn to ignore their mistakes. Even when you are living with your own parents things are not 100%.
firstly- i didnt do any batameezi, i was quiet.stayed silent. as usual.
secondly i am not expecting a sorry i dont want it and your right she is elder.
but
its the drama she causes, she will now infront of hubs and FIL cause a scene and start begging me for forgiveness or kissing my feet JUST to show them, privatly shes a different woman to me. thats my issue, thats why im saying its all BS, her drama,shes always ill the day after someone puts her in her place......sorry i sound rude, but she doesnt get it when shes rude to people or rude about people.
firstly- i didnt do any batameezi, i was quiet.stayed silent. as usual.
that's what I was saying that you also should not say sorry because you did not do any badtameezi with her
secondly i am not expecting a sorry i dont want it and your right she is elder.
but
its the drama she causes, she will now infront of hubs and FIL cause a scene and start begging me for forgiveness or kissing my feet JUST to show them, privatly shes a different woman to me. thats my issue, thats why im saying its all BS, her drama,shes always ill the day after someone puts her in her place......sorry i sound rude, but she doesnt get it when shes rude to people or rude about people.
Kissing feet and all is crazy if she is doing that she is making a fool of herself and the beemari wala bahana like u r saying she always do that then her family must already be aware of this .
you can ask her if you should make some soup or anything else for her since she is sooo beemar or if she wants you can take her to doctor for check up. then just say in the end "app apna khayal rakha karain" thats it then say "main jaa rahi hoon I have to feed the baby or change the diaper" don't talk too much ok !
OK Nadzz first thing don't expect her to apologize to you even if she is wrong she will not say sorry to you and I believe she shouldn't too. She did wrong and her son and her husband has already taken your side and she should really not be saying sorry. Not because she is your MIL but because she is your elder. Our parents too sometimes get angry on us without a valid reason do we ask them to say sorry ? It's completely wrong and unethical to expect her to say sorry I mean the lady is an equal member of your house and not someone lower than you.
She did wrong when she got angry at you and your husband. BUT your husband dealt with the matter.
May be she is ill may be she is not ill give her the benefit of doubt. Leave the matter on Allah ! You don't need to explain to your husband anything it's between him and his mother. He also should ask you to apologize because in what you have written above you haven't mentioned that u dd any badtameezi with her so why say sorry ? Give the matter some time she won't be ill for the rest of her life.
Nadzz your inlaws are nice with you believe me they are very good with you. Learn to ignore their mistakes. Even when you are living with your own parents things are not 100%.
Nadz.........learn from the sheer brillance of your MIL.
The next time your MIL or husband gives you a hard time...............fake sickness. Take to the bed and start gasping for air. Hack up some phlegm and wake up screaming in the middle of the night.
'Tis the only way you'll be able to wrap your husband around your finger.
Or…why don’t you take advantage of this time…and prove your worth to your MIL through khidmat. She’s an ill woman, Nadz. :nono: It’s time you took charge of the household chores…especially the cooking. Force-feed her soup and khichdi…and Nadz-concocted foul remedies…and she’ll be up and running and in no time.
i do cook man, i always do. its not the cooking thats the problem. its a catch 22…she doesnt like me anyway, wether i cook clean and buy her gold, she wont.
It's completely wrong and unethical to expect her to say sorry I mean the lady is an equal member of your house and not someone lower than you.
But then in that case, no one else should apologize either, as nadz said in her original post that she gets sick and then everyone else says sorry and takes care of her.