Okay, I know what everyone’s thinking. I’m not the only one! Everyone goes through this and you don’t necessarily have to “find” the guy yourself but I’m sick of waiting. I’m not that old, I know I have time but I would really like to have a significant other in my life. As superficial as it may sound, I (you don’t have to agree with me) feel you can only achieve true happiness when you have someone special in your life.
I’ve had somebody in my life, don’t have them anymore and I would really like having someone special in my life! I’m sick of waiting. My parent’s have never nagged me about getting married but even they’ve started talking about how I should be getting engaged within the next year or so because I’m “of age”. I’m scared to death of being married to someone and not being in love with them (love = happiness..for me). That’s something I’d never do, and my parents know it but how long can I wait?! How does a Pakistani, Muslim girl go about finding “the one” in this day and age. I can’t wait for “him to come to me” because I’ve waited and it’s not happening!
Believe it or not, I do have a life..although it may not sound like it because I’m saying all this here. I have friends, no one I’m interested in getting serious with though. I don’t go clubbing and okay I’m not THE most social person in the world, I might not make myself as available as I could, but that’s something you’re refrained from doing being a Muslim girl. What do I do? What CAN I do? I feel that you should get to know a person for a while before you plan on marrying them and it’s about time I started getting to know someone if I’m going to marry them in a couple of years! (I know that’s not how it has to be but that’s how I’d like it)
And yes, I do pray for things I want, but what can I do OTHER than that, suggestions please!
I just came across your message and I must say the dilemma your going through is exactly what im going through.
I do have the freedom to find someone myself, but I feel life is too busy with working 5 days a week. I had the perfect chance when i was at uni but all the guys were not the type i would like to marry, but now its a question of how to find the one and where?
Anyway I really hope and pray you find someone inshallah.