Re: How do I explain to my Pakistani Husband that I have depression..
Barfi, maybe this is a gender issue as well (not just culture clash). Women deal with depression by expressing it emotionally e.g. crying, or discussing things with their friends whereas men tend to bottle it within themselves.
Also, you said you miscarried so has it not effected your husband just as much as you?
My sister had a miscarriage and we were all very upset for her but MashAllah, she knew that Allah had something better in store for her. The key for her was to be patient. Time is a huge enemy of ours but also a great healer.
I really do wish you all the best and as cliched as it is, have trust and faith in Allah only. Prescriptions and therapies are all man made techniques to alleviate the symptoms of depression but only placing your expectations in Allah will help you resolve all your problems. Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) had lost his wife, Hazrat Khadeejah, his uncle who protected him and had no allies yet he fought to conquer the whole of Mecca within 20 years of Islam being revealed. So, trust only Allah and He will give you 10 times more than any medication or therapy can.
Iam sorry to do the mullah rant, but I was weak in my faith and started to read the Quran to help me with wordly pain and depression.
As to the question you posed about your husband being from Pakistan. Sometimes it is a completely new and scary thing for them to deal with. However, communication is key in a successful marriage and you two MashAllah sound like you really love and care for each other. I would suggest booking a getaway for both of you (maybe up to Lake District) and just enjoying each other's company. The constant reminders of the loss of your sister and baby are at home and you need relief. You don't have to do it immediately, but discuss with your hubby that you need some time off from work/home life. What do you think?
InshAllah, I really hope and pray everything works out for you.