Did you get a ring before the actual engagement day? Him and I went picked it out together...before i even met his parents, i took it with me to Pakistan :)
Did you help pick out your ring? Yes, and i have already upgraded it... when i got it we didn't have much time to get a custom one made for me...and once i returned to the US him n I went shoppin again :Doh and we picked out simple platinum band for him.
Did you pick out your mangni dress? or did ur MIL? My inlaw picked out my outfits :(
How many people attended your engagement? I went to meet his parents and they wanted to introduce me to his whole family (while he was in the US)...so my family had a engagment party for 120 ppl in lahore...and i was on stage without him :(
How long after your engagement was your shaadi? My engagement is going to be 2 years 3 months long...inshallah :) the wedding is on June 12, 2010.
What all happened during the actual event? since he wasn't there :( his mom put the ring on my finger :(
Did you consider yourself (verbally) engaged before the actual day of engagement? YES
wel i just got engaged on saturday hehe..so il let u knw hw mine went..
Did you get a ring before the actual engagement day?
wel i got to see the ring..my MIL showed me it to see if i liked it
Did you help pick out your ring?
i wasnt there physically but i still got asked if i liked it or if i wanted sumthn else
Did you pick out your mangni dress? or did ur MIL?
wel for the 1st half i wore a suit from my parents,then second half go changed in an outfit from them..they also bought matchn shoes and bangles
How many people attended your engagement?
it was just our close family from either side..stil turned out 2 be about 26 people..we bth had a best mate there aswell
How long after your engagement was your shaadi?
will prob be this tym next yr..inshallah
What all happened during the actual event?
we had it in a restaurant..me and my family got there 1st so we were ready 2 greet them.wjhen they came they bought a molvi aswel to read dua..he wz really gud coz he explained everything in english aswel..then we exchanged rings (yes..he got 1 too),then got fed LOADZ of mithai..then just all had sumthn 2 eat
Did you consider yourself (verbally) engaged before the actual day of engagement?
yep
So your hubby will also have 2 rings? As in one engagement and obviously the wedding band? Wow, this whole guy-getting-an-engagement-ring thing is all new to me.
Btw, did anyone do/plan on doing the whole matching wedding band thing? I so want to get matching wedding bands!
Did you get a ring before the actual engagement day?
Did you help pick out your ring?
Did you pick out your mangni dress? or did ur MIL?
How many people attended your engagement?
How long after your engagement was your shaadi?
What all happened during the actual event?
Did you consider yourself (verbally) engaged before the actual day of engagement?
Just wondering because in my khandaan no one has ever done a mangni, but my fiance's side wants to do one! Ive never attended one and neither have my parents so i dont know what to expect.
If you are HAVING an engagement soon, please share how yours is expected to happen.
My engagement left like a joke for me, because I was toooooo much busy those days that I couldn't find time to sit back and dream.Therefore I wasn't in my senses to expect anything :( Now I regret that why did I miss that time by having such horribly busy schedule. My father has never been in the favor of celebrating mangnies so my engagement wasn't actually celebrated on a grand level. My contribution was zero during the prep.
I got my ring on the exact day of engagement.
I wasn't ask for help during the process of buying/choosing ring. My in-laws bought the ring for me. I had no idea what are they going to bring.
My dress was also bought by my MIL.
It was arranged at my home so hardly 10 to 15 people attended that occasion.
I think I got married right after 4 months of this official commitment.
It was a small family gathering. My sisters prepared the food for the guests at home. My friends did my photography :P. Our families didn't exchange the rings on the same day. My family went with mithaee to my husband's place the next day.
I never considered myself engaged but many people already wished me before the actual event was happened.
So your hubby will also have 2 rings? As in one engagement and obviously the wedding band? Wow, this whole guy-getting-an-engagement-ring thing is all new to me.
Btw, did anyone do/plan on doing the whole matching wedding band thing? I so want to get matching wedding bands!
No he is only going to have one. I am going to upgrade his current one (trade it in) for a band with about 2 ct diamonds.
For my engagement we had an informal bath paki and didn't do an official engagement since we were planning to have a Nikah in about 6 months from the time of the baat. But every time my fiance would visit my family my mom and my aunts would throw him a dawaat and someone or another would usually bring a congratulations cake and we would do the whole cake feeding ritual everytime he came to see us up until the time of the Nikah lol. Because we were having the Nikah, we did our ring exchange then and picked each others ring ourselves, we both wanted it to be a surprise and didn't really have any expectations on the rings, plus we both had an idea of what the other wanted. I also picked out my own Nikah outfit as his as well. They payed for it and we paid for his outfit. It was a simple event, nothing major just at our mosque with just my immediate khandaan and close friends. We were both wearing shalwar suitsI. Basically we had the religious program, the Nikah, the mula did a speech on marriage and some people read naats then I came out and we had our ring exchange and a few rasms that take place in my family during the nikah like the arsi mousaf and then there was dinner and everyone hung out for the rest of the night. :) I didn't consider myself really engaged until mu Nikah happened. The wedding is July iA, 8 months after my nikah.
I've mostly seen the guy get a ring on the engagement day and I also find that a little strange at times. If not that, then yes, a watch is given... but then the fiance could already have a watch that he really likes.
Some Arabs do things a little differently and it's interesting. I've noticed that when they get engaged, if the guy is given a ring, he'll wear it on his right hand. Then after the wedding, he'll switch to his left hand. The girls will do this too sometimes. My Arab female friends who are engaged or maybe had their nikkah (but no wedding), will wear their ring on their right hand and switch to the left the day of the wedding.
Did you get a ring before the actual engagement day?
Did you help pick out your ring?
Did you pick out your mangni dress? or did ur MIL?
How many people attended your engagement?
How long after your engagement was your shaadi?
What all happened during the actual event?
Did you consider yourself (verbally) engaged before the actual day of engagement?
Just wondering because in my khandaan no one has ever done a mangni, but my fiance's side wants to do one! Ive never attended one and neither have my parents so i dont know what to expect.
If you are HAVING an engagement soon, please share how yours is expected to happen.
Heey..my engagement was on 4th April :) I got a ring from my MIL for the baat pakki, which was in November '09..she insisted on getting me one bless her although i said that its ok if she doesn't as i knew i'd be getting one on my engagement. But she wanted me to have one so its all good :) I helped pick out both my baat pakki ring and engagement ring.
My MIL left it completely upto me to choose my dress and colour combo, the only thing she was responsible for (alongside my fiance ofcourse!) was paying for it lol. She wanted me to have it designed how i wanted..which was very sweet of her.
There was about 180 people at the engagement as it happened on the same day as my brothers Valima..both functions went extremely well alhumdulillah :)
InshAllah the shaadi is being planned for oct/nov 2011 :) n to answer your last question i considered myself engaged the day my rishta was done!
The actual rasm was simple..he came in with his family, they brought mithai etc..i was then brought in by my brother and sisters..we had our rings on this gorgeous lil ring cushion my Mum had made. We then exchanged rings, everyone clapped and hey presto we're engaged! :D After that we had a simple photoshoot and lots of family dancing. it was a great day alhumdulillah :)
Whens your engagement?
I got a ring for my fiance at the egagement but he doesn’t wear it at all…
not giving him another one on the wedding…cuz he will be wearing the egagement one as a wedding band.
this is what we gifted the family on the egagement:
Mom: Gold earrings, and a semi-formal outfit
Dad: Shalwar kameez
3 Sisters: each a semi-formal outfit
no brothers.
hmm, well my baath paki ho gaya about two and a half weeks ago. now we're going to his familys house in two weeks, to meet all his extended family, and im not sure what to expect then. As for the official engagement i think it will be in a few months.
Did you get a ring before the actual engagement day?
Yup! When he proposed. And then he gave it to me (again) at the engagement.
Did you help pick out your ring?
Sort of. I pointed out the styles I loved and then he surprised me with one.
Did you pick out your mangni dress? or did ur MIL?
Mum got my engagement dress for me. It was a red and offwhite lehenga.
How many people attended your engagement?
Only close friends and family attended- there were 50 of us in all, I think.
How long after your engagement was your shaadi?
7.5 months later, we were married! :)
What all happened during the actual event?
It was at his parent's house, so we waited till everyone was there, then we came and sat down on two chairs they'd set up in the living room. He gave me the ring, all the aunts fed us mithai, my mom gave us both matching watches, we took LOTS of pictures, and that was it! We had dinner, everyone had fun and went home.
Did you consider yourself (verbally) engaged before the actual day of engagement?
Yes, I do consider a verbal commitment an engagement. The ring is simply a formality thought up by DeBeers way back in the 30's as a way of selling more diamonds. Clever *******s! :p
