Did you get a ring before the actual engagement day?
Did you help pick out your ring?
Did you pick out your mangni dress? or did ur MIL?
How many people attended your engagement?
How long after your engagement was your shaadi?
What all happened during the actual event?
Did you consider yourself (verbally) engaged before the actual day of engagement?
Just wondering because in my khandaan no one has ever done a mangni, but my fiance’s side wants to do one! Ive never attended one and neither have my parents so i dont know what to expect.
If you are HAVING an engagement soon, please share how yours is expected to happen.
My engagement was this past month Alhamd. I custom made my ring and fiance funded it ;) but I never saw it in real life till the actual engagement. I also got to pick out my mangni dress. There were around 70-80 people so we didn't get to do it at home. My wedding is set for Thanksgiving break, iA. We had our baeth paaki for about 5 months before the actual engagement, but didn't really consider him my "fiance" till this past month =) if you have any more questions, feel free to ask! I know how stressful it can all be!
Did you get a ring before the actual engagement day?
Did you help pick out your ring?
Did you pick out your mangni dress? or did ur MIL?
How many people attended your engagement?
How long after your engagement was your shaadi?
What all happened during the actual event?
Did you consider yourself (verbally) engaged before the actual day of engagement?
Just wondering because in my khandaan no one has ever done a mangni, but my fiance's side wants to do one! Ive never attended one and neither have my parents so i dont know what to expect.
If you are HAVING an engagement soon, please share how yours is expected to happen.
i can tell u about my sis mangni...
we ordered both rings, for my sis and the fiance. but both sides paid them... we send them a pic of the ring my sis picked...
larke wale brought the suit, shoes, julry
there were 40 people on the mangni and it was in a shadi hall
we said, baat pakki ho gai hai... mangni was after 3 month, baat ke baad
my sis came in, guy was sitting in mens side. we made pix
the guy came in and went on his knees and gave her the ring with a rose.
I didn't really have an engagement ceremony per say because we had Nikah about 4 months after my parents accepted the proposal. I think basically in our family the guys side brings larki's clothes for engagement. For Nikah he asked me what kind of engagement ring I wanted and I send him a few pictures of the kind i was looking for, not sure if anyone could find these kind in pakistan. i wanted princess cut solitaire in thick band setting. Well he had a friend that lived in states so he had him custom make one for me and had him bring to pakistan with him. I got it after our nikah as an engagement ceremony. Meanwhile, my parents felt bad and bought me a wedding ring of my choice from here before we went to pakistan for our nikah.. so now I have two engagement rings :)
okay this picture is from my shaadi day. You can see my wedding ring.. i don’t know if it’s clear or not.
It has two princess cut bands on the side and the engagement ring is a solitaire with 1.25 Kt princess cut.
The solitaire ring is seperate from the wedding bands on the side. The bands on the side are from the ring my parents got me so I sometimes combine the bands with this ring.
and I don't like the idea of the dude getting a ring on the engagement. I think it's a bit odd, though for the baraat a wedding band is fine for the guy.
Did the guy always get a ring too? I wouldn't want my fiancé to have a ring for the engagement.
My ring is absolutely gorgeous, its about 1 carat, round diamond on a pave band. My fiance got it from a diamond show at a jewelry store and had the ring custom made.
We just had the guys family come over and we exchanged rings. Ate, and danced a little. I didn't know I was required to get the groom a ring untill a few days before lol. I am going to upgrade his ring prior to our wedding.
My hubby didn't wear any engagement ring per say till we had our nikah. I got him an engagement ring but he wore if after our nikah. I don't think many people in my family give a ring to guy but maybe some families do.
I got my fiance a plain silver band, looks much nicer on guys, to much bling or colour looks tacky (in my opinion). I got a stunning platinum ring from beaverbrooks which i sorta chose wen he took me window shopping for a ring.
Engagement was abit last minute, but went really well. Wanted to have a simple thing at home but due over 50 guests (immediate fam/friends) we booked a restaurant. Even tho i felt it was OTT at first on the day i loved it.. Guy side got greeted and den i walked in later.. took loads of pics, exchanged rings and then ate.. then we cut our cake, more pics, bit of banter.. and then the evening was over. Good laugh :)
I actually never heard of the guy getting an engagement ring until I read about it on GS. Engagement rings is kinda a western tradition and in the US atleast - only the girl gets a ring (goray ppl im talking about). So that is how I have always seen it been done here by desis as well... only the girl gets a ring at the time of engagement.
My engagement was a few months ago :) My baat paki was like a month before that but I didn't consider myself engaged or he my fiance until the actual engagement happened. In my family engagements are more intimate affairs done at home with only immediate family members present so that is how we preferred to have ours. I also invited a few of my close friends.
Despite it being in our house and an intimate affair - we still had decorated our house and set up the living room so that there was a proper "stage area". My parents had a professional photographer come to take pictures during the entire function. Appetizers were served to ladkhay walay when they initially came over and before they went into the living room. I was upstairs at this point. Once they had settled into the living room, my friends and sister brought me downstairs. We had music playing in the background the entire time. My fiance put the ring on me himself. In our family its traditional that at the time of engagement, the girl's father gives his future damaad a watch. So after the ring moment, my dad put a watch on him. It was a watch that my mother and he had picked out ... and it was REALLY nice :D My parents had a great choice and my fiance luvs it.
After that his father led a dua for us and our future. My mother then gave more gifts to him and also his family members. My younger brothers and sister had pooled their money together and had gotten him a gift as well. The youngest (10 yrs old) presented it to him and then shook his hand welcoming him into the family - SO SO cute.
We then went into the dining room and cut a cake. I had designed this cake myself and it had turned out beautifully. We did the whole feeding each other thing and then fed our family members.
Then had dinner - then had dessert - then had chai and fruit. Us youngsters all hung out together in one room and the adults all hung out in another room. We all really enjoyed ourselves :)
Ok- my engagement ring: I had no idea what kind of ring I was going to get and gave no input on what I wanted. My fiance designed the ring setting himself and bought it himself for me. It is absolutely stunning. I have no idea what size the diamond is ..but its huge. :D It's a princess cut solitaire with a thin platinum band. He did a wonderful job with it!
My Mangni dress: I actually got 3 dresses! :D All with matching jewelery, shoes, and accessories. One dress was given to me by my parents .... I wore this for the first half of my engagement. My mom had picked it out and bought me all the stuff to go along with it. It was their present to me. And my inlaws brought me 2 dresses when they came for the function. I changed into one of the outfits they brought for me during the second half of the night. So I actually ended up wearing two dresses and still had one to spare! lol. My parents gave me a pishwaas and it was dark green. The suit I wore from them was a shalwaar kameez with trouser pants..and it was a light pink and turquoise combination. So it was completely different looks. My inlaws also brought me gajaray which I wore the entire night.
Hope my detailed response helped! Feel free to PM me if you have any further questions!
I actually never heard of the guy getting an engagement ring until I read about it on GS. Engagement rings is kinda a western tradition and in the US atleast - only the girl gets a ring (goray ppl im talking about). So that is how I have always seen it been done here by desis as well... only the girl gets a ring at the time of engagement.
My engagement was a few months ago :) My baat paki was like a month before that but I didn't consider myself engaged or he my fiance until the actual engagement happened. In my family engagements are more intimate affairs done at home with only immediate family members present so that is how we preferred to have ours. I also invited a few of my close friends.
Despite it being in our house and an intimate affair - we still had decorated our house and set up the living room so that there was a proper "stage area". My parents had a professional photographer come to take pictures during the entire function. Appetizers were served to ladkhay walay when they initially came over and before they went into the living room. I was upstairs at this point. Once they had settled into the living room, my friends and sister brought me downstairs. We had music playing in the background the entire time. My fiance put the ring on me himself. In our family its traditional that at the time of engagement, the girl's father gives his future damaad a watch. So after the ring moment, my dad put a watch on him. It was a watch that my mother and he had picked out ... and it was REALLY nice :D My parents had a great choice and my fiance luvs it.
After that his father led a dua for us and our future. My mother then gave more gifts to him and also his family members. My younger brothers and sister had pooled their money together and had gotten him a gift as well. The youngest (10 yrs old) presented it to him and then shook his hand welcoming him into the family - SO SO cute.
We then went into the dining room and cut a cake. I had designed this cake myself and it had turned out beautifully. We did the whole feeding each other thing and then fed our family members.
Then had dinner - then had dessert - then had chai and fruit. Us youngsters all hung out together in one room and the adults all hung out in another room. We all really enjoyed ourselves :)
Ok- my engagement ring: I had no idea what kind of ring I was going to get and gave no input on what I wanted. My fiance designed the ring setting himself and bought it himself for me. It is absolutely stunning. I have no idea what size the diamond is ..but its huge. :D It's a princess cut solitaire with a thin platinum band. He did a wonderful job with it!
My Mangni dress: I actually got 3 dresses! :D All with matching jewelery, shoes, and accessories. One dress was given to me by my parents .... I wore this for the first half of my engagement. My mom had picked it out and bought me all the stuff to go along with it. It was their present to me. And my inlaws brought me 2 dresses when they came for the function. I changed into one of the outfits they brought for me during the second half of the night. So I actually ended up wearing two dresses and still had one to spare! lol. My parents gave me a pishwaas and it was dark green. The suit I wore from them was a shalwaar kameez with trouser pants..and it was a light pink and turquoise combination. So it was completely different looks. My inlaws also brought me gajaray which I wore the entire night.
Hope my detailed response helped! Feel free to PM me if you have any further questions!
^ Thanks hun! The event really did turn out beautifully … all thanks to my mother’s efforts and planning ofcourse!!! All credit goes to her!!!
Another thing that was really awesome about my engagement was that it occurred at a time when my naani happened to be visiting from Pakistan! So that worked out awesome and it was absolutely amazing that she was able to be here for it!
Aww! That sounded so adorable, PR! And yup, I'm w/ you on the part about the guy bit getting an engagement ring since it's girls who usually get it. I'd get my hubby a plain wedding band but that's on the actual wedding. I think on the engagement a guy should get a watch or something.
Did you get a ring before the actual engagement day? **Nope.
**Did you help pick out your ring? **Nope, but I did send photos of styles I liked.
**Did you pick out your mangni dress? or did ur MIL? MIL picked it. It was a complete surprise. (peach jamevar shalwar kamiz with gold and silver kaam) How many people attended your engagement? about 180-200 (at home) How long after your engagement was your shaadi? almost 1.5 years What all happened during the actual event? I was brought in after hubby and family arrived. We exchanged rings and took photos with family. Dinner was served outside. Then a few dances.
**Did you consider yourself (verbally) engaged before the actual day of engagement? **Yes
The event really did turn out beautifully … all thanks to my mother’s efforts and planning ofcourse!!! All credit goes to her!!!