Re: How did you guys feel the way I do? How did you move on?
You’re not abandoning your parents by getting married. You need to move along in that natural progression because if you don’t (and you wish to), you’ll blame them for it later on.
The thing is…with transitions people adjust. Parents become empty nesters and start to focus on different things in their lives. I felt like I was leaving my mom and dad behind and the guilt was really bad at first. But this is also necessary so you can feel your parents’ issues as well.
After moving out, I spent more time with them than I did living with them…by that I mean quality time. Not time under the same roof. After moving out, I started pushing them to do fun things for themselves…before I never thought about this. After becoming a mom, I realize what my mom must have gone through.
How involved you stay with your parents is entirely dependent on you…how deeply you feel your responsibilities and how committed you are to making this new life work. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.