Ok I wanna get married already!!!!!!!!!!!!! But my dads telling EVERYONE he wont get me married till im 25years old!!!! WHYYYYYYY!! :( I WANNA CRY!! i dont wanna be 25years old! i wanna be 21-22 when i marry. I wanna get engaged now!!
I wanna marry my boyfriend. His dad asked for rishta and my dads not getting back to them! My mum knows about him, she's met him she LOVES him. I've spoken to his mum she LOVES me. His dad even knows how much we love each other!
His dads gonna ring again in a weeks time. Now i wanna make sure my dad tells me about it. Now if he doesnt....? How shall i approach him?? Im gonna tell my dads mum about it firstly so she can help me out.
How did you girls/guys approach your dad about it? That took you serious. Also i wanna point out i've always been a daddy's girl, he cant let go or accept the fact im growing up. He still see's me as a baby. Its sweet, But im getting very very inpatient now.
All you can really do at this point is TALK to your dad. Perhaps he feels that 25 (and I know others who feel this way as well) is a good age because one is more mature.......since you're done with college........are more independent......have more experience with the real world (job, etc).
But, yes, at the same time........there are 25-year-olds who haven't grown up.
It's good that you have the support of your mom and grandmother. Numbers can help sway a person's decision ;)
******It's important that you stay CALM while discussing this issue with your dad. If you start losing your cool and start yelling/talking back.............that will only REINFORCE the idea of you not being mature enough for marriage in your dad's mind. *
***** It's possible that your dad is just afraid of losing you. Start the discussion off in a positive way as I mentioned in your previous thread about "Drifting Relationships." Tell your dad that you love him.......that you appreciate everything he's done for you........and that you understand that he will always want what's best for you. And then ask him to explain HIS reasons for why he wants you to wait until 25. LISTEN TO THOSE REASONS no matter how much you may disagree with them. And then..........think about his reasons........and then CALMLY refute them, if possible.
You're basically going to calmly come up with points..........that will COUNTER your dad's ideas. One strong reason you can put forth is that good rishtas are hard to find................and that if you wait for that long...........the guy's family might feel rejected and drop the rishta. You can even bring up the point that a marriage requires a couple who understand each other and have compatibility.......and that is something you share with your boyf.
***********If possible, discuss the fears that your dad has about the rishta with your boyfriend. That way...............when your boyfriend and his father talk to YOUR DAD about the rishta again..................................they can address the concerns that your dad has and reassure him...........so, your dad will hopefully feel more comfortable.
^But in order for this to happen........you gotta be patient and have your dad explain ALL HIS REASONS...........so that you and your boyfriend can address them in a mature manner.
***************It's difficult to listen to our parents.........but in hindsight we realize that they have a track record for being right most of the time. They DO have more experience than us.........and they DO......tend to consider issues that we may overlook. SO just hear him out, before deciding to counter his views.
***********With two families involved.......you may not get things to happen the way you want them to. You might not get an early/young wedding........but perhaps you can convince your parents for an early engagement...........and then you can BARGAIN on the wedding time frame (1 to 2 years from now, etc). Bargain and compromise and try to stay calm.
InshaAllah, everything will fall into place and will happen for the best :)
I WANNA CRY!! i dont wanna be 25years old! i wanna be 21-22 when i marry. I wanna get engaged now!!
try to understand ur dad, show u do love him more then ur love, give him sometime n support him whatever ur dad say to u. Inshallah U’ll get what u wish. Our prayers also with ya :k: