How did you approach your DAD about marriage??

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i spoke to my mom and she spoke to my dad thats mainly because im closer to my mom.

anyway, i wouldnt let my sister get married till she was atleast 25 theres just way too much responsibility in a marraige. i would wait if i were u.

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As others have suggested speak to your mum and get her to have a word with him.

They boys side will have to also stay active in all this - as you've said his dad will call your dad again soon, so why don't both sides try and arrange a meet up?

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Thing is my dad hasnt told my mum about it. His dad rang my dads mobile. But now hes gonna ring the house. But my mums not even gonna be here!! But when my mum 'knows' like properly, Because she knows frm me, But not from dad. Anyway When she knows she can tell him. If not i'll have to put my foot down. And he has to see i am not a baby no more God damn it!!

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MixedBeauty - I thought that you had broken up with your BF???? But I'm glad things are working out and that he is completely on board and getting his parents involved. That is a VERY good sign :D An even better sign is that your mom likes him and his mom likes you.

My advice would be to talk to your dad in a straightforward way.... tell him your feelings and how you feel/what you want. He luvs you so he will listen.... even if he does not like to hear what you are saying.

I told my dad about my boyfriend and said that I wanted to introduce them to each other. This is even before the parental units had even met or any word of rishtaa had even come about. My mom had known about this from the get go but had not said anything to my dad about it. She wanted to make sure it was very serious before it was mentioned to him. WHich is why I just took the initiative and told my father the truth. It showed both of my parents how serious we were. My dad was very sad because I am the eldest child ...and very ladli for him. I am also very much so a "daddy's girl". But he was also really appreciative for my honesty and also happy that my bf wanted to meet him.

Everything worked out :) 6 months after my dad and my bf initially met - we got engaged.

You will be surprised how understanding parents can be. They love you and only want the best for you. They want you to be happy.

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No i neva broke up with him that was jus a random thread :)

Anyways after they have rang up and what not, if he still doesnt mention anything i will jus tell him str8 up. Admit everything. Its the only way forward.

Theres nothing there that my dad can refuse. we've been together for 2 years so it shows how serious we are, hes told his dad about me, his mum knew frm day one and so did mine. She really loves me which makes my heart so happy. She constantly buys me things, She knows how much i love sweet rice and she ALWAYS makes it me. Shes SO sweet man.
I know for sure i will be happy for life in this family Inshallah.

Hes educated, hes gonna graduate, hes 6ft1 theres jus nothing my dad can pick out and say bla bla, Hes the perfect husband and the perfect son-in-law. He constantly showers me with love and always buying me gifts. I love him so much and im gonna do everything in my power so me and him marry!!

btw how old r u punjabirose? xx

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Dads figure this thing out quickly enough.

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I'm happy for you MixedBeauty- Sounds like you are in a good situation. From what you say - your dad has nothing to worry about and he will be understanding inshAllah. So best of luck on your chat with your dad. The best way is deal with things in a very honest and straightforward way in these type of situations if you want any kind of resolution. Personally, I do not think you have much to be worried about from all that you have told. Lastly: Remind your dad that good guys are hard to come by and that you have truly found winner.

As I mentioned in another one of your thread's MixedBeauty, compared to you - I am an old buddi. haha. I am 25 years old. I dated my boyfriend for 2 years before we got engaged (its been a little over a month). I focused more on my studies for the majority of my life because it has always been a very important thing for my parents that I have the ability to stand on my own two feet. I do not think my dad would have been cool with the fact of me getting married earlier. For the reason that he really wanted me to have a professional degree. But I am a lawyer now and his wish has come true. As sad as he was that I am growing up, he is more accepting of it. He had no problem with meeting my guy and he had an easier time understanding it's importance. Its the next step after all.

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Mixedbeauty, I was in your shoes last year. My fiancee(Bf then) knew each other for 2 years, my mom knew him, his mom knew me and they all liked each other. Problem was that since we are all girls, my dad always thought of me as a "son" of the family. Since, i am a good student and was on my path to get a degree and eventually become a doctor. Although, i am the 2nd one he still expected me to take care of the family if he is not able to. I didnot found out about this expectation of his until the rishta came and my mom try to convinced him. Anyhow, my dad was like lets see and called them over to meet my extended family and grandma. They all liked him and everyone was saying go for it. But Obviously to my dad this was a big dissapointment since he had planned for me to stick around here forever. I was just acting as you are right now, because first of all i was angry that for him i should never marry then if he wants me to be here and son of the family. Second was that he was picking out silly little things in my fiancee just to say no. One day i had a conversation with him, stated how i feel and in the end they are my parents and they have the right to make the decision of my life.Fast forwarding through LOTS and LOTS of struggle, tears, dissapointments finally i got engaged, also got in to the nursing program that i was struggling to get in. And now i am getting married Next month and will start my classes 10 days after the wedding. It weird i knowh

One thing i know is when its time, its time. you cant make it happen sooner nor they can delay it some how situations will cause it to happen. SO relax and pray that things happen for the best.

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^ That means alot to me. Thanks for sharing your story. I am waiting and i know its down to kismet at the end of the day. But i really hope it happens. i know i have mum and his family on my side. My dad gets teary of even the thought of me getting married. But its not like im going to die. Im jus going to get married for God sake! I wish people wud realise that marriage is a blessing and not a curse. Im still gonna be his daughter. Im literally gonna be a hour away from him when i do get married.

Im jus hoping and praying he says yes. Inshallah.