Re: how could i help her.
Had a friend's cousin who met a guy and they were "in love" for a good 6 months or so before getting engaged. Then she finds out that he is a "yes" man. Good thing they were only engaged. They mutually agreed to end the relationship as the guy always followed what his mother said and did not care about the girl's feelings much.
This guy sounds a bit similar where he tells her not to go on a vacation w/ her parents eventhough no rukhsati has taken place. My husband and I are nikaahed but if I go on a vacation w/ friends and family he never stops me but instead wants me to go. Sounds fishy to me.