how come relationships/weddings..

[starrysky]

@lahori99

Hi, how come people in our society give such big importance to degree (mainly doctors, lawyers) when it comes to relationships or weddings? Be it parents or the kids. Why do we think doctors/lawyers are better than someone who doesn’t have a degree? I understand doctors/lawyers make good money and they have higher status in our society but doesn’t mean it will end in happy marriage. I understand value/importance of money plays in our lives but to me money is only important as much as one needs in his/her life. In the past i have seen some really good people with high values/morals get rejected b/c they didn’t had a degree or didn’t make as much money. While there are guys who go to clubs, drink, date girls etc are getting good proposals just b/c they are doctors and make good money. I guess what i am trying to ask is why people just assume someone with higher education is better than someone who doesn’t? Shouldn’t marriage be based on values, morals, character etc rather than education and social status? Why people who work at hmm lets say warehouses, drive cabs etc are looked down upon? when they could be very hard working, honest, caring, giving, religious, etc than someone who has a doctor degree. I often hear desi talk bad about people who work at 7 11, macs (pretty much low paying jobs) even if that person has the most amazing heart.

As a guy i wouldn’t want someone to be interested in me b/c i have money. As a man who has never been in clubs, toughed alcohol, drugs, women etc i would much rather want a girl/family who likes me for my character rather than anything i might have at that time (degree/money). Even my ma is like must get a degree to get a good girl.
Why are desi so focused on degree and money when it comes to marriage?

P.S just in case you are wondering, no i don’t work at 7 11 or anything like that.

I think you are missing the point here. It is all about your social status. A doctor/lawyer/other professional has a white collar job and automatically a middle/upple class status. If you decide to run a kebab shop, you will always be seen as being from a lower class even if you happen to make as much money as the doctor/lawyer.

I think having a degree gives you a lot more opportunities in life and opens up so many more doors for you. Why should you not aspire to better yourself given the chance? Asian parents usually push their children more towards education because a lot of them didn’t have the same opportunities themselves. Bloody hell, be grateful our parents are like this. So many white parents don’t give a **** what their children do with their lives.

I personally don’t care about money but I would instantly turn down a guy if he hadn’t done a moderately challenging degree. As nice/rich as he may be, I would never be able to treat him like an equal.