How Come Parents live without their kids

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^I was thinking the same.. now parenting may have trolls too!!!

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My friend is divorced. She got divorced at the age of 19 with a lil boy of 2 months as well. She is arabic, so there is some culture diff as well. She really wanted to get back together with her husband due to her son. She tried to compromise a lot and would take his demands, but when he would see she is agreeing, he would disappear. So went on two years, she was staying with her parents with her son. Ex-husband was making no effort for reconcile or see his child. Today, she is mashallah se happily married again. Her new husband has taken her son to him as his own. The kid thinks of him as his dad as well. The Ex-husband tried to demand to see his son, but after such a long time, you cannot expect the kid to acknowledge him as his father. The child is 6 years old. I'm just telling you this to show you that good step parents are around. People who are God fearing.

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I kind of hope it's a troll. It makes me sick to think such idiots exist and proudly state their POVs with no shame or insight.

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I am sure that lots of people on this thread would disagree with me and they would have a justification (based on their observation/experience), but my own mom and dad stayed in a rough relationship, only because of us kids. Today when I look back and think, I just develop more respect and gratitude for what they did, cause alhamdulliah - all us brother and sisters were raised just great.

My mom has a high school degree only, and dad was busy because he was a professor and journalist. None of them alone would be able to raise us. Thank god that they stayed together. and if for nothing else, at least for their kids, worked as a team.

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Please stop calling someone troll just because you dont agree with his/her POV.

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All situations are different. Sometimes there's too much mental abuse to keep the adults sane.

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^ Also physical abuse like beatings and sexual abuse by the father on the mother does do the kids in. No child should have to see these things.

TLK , I have seen parents who are just opposites nature wise or their thought processes might not match and for them them to live together for the sake of kids is hard but definitely doable but then you also have ppl on the board who abuse their partners physically, mentally, and sometimes even sexually. That is a deal breaker regardless of whether they have kids or not.

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^ That is why I said -** I am sure that lots of people on this thread would disagree with me and they would have a justification (based on their observation/experience)** -

and I meant it with all due respect.

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But they wouldn't be alone if they remarried (just mentioning cos two of my uncles married divorced women, one with two kids)..

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I am not sure if we as kids were ready to accept another woman as our mom or another man as our dad

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I think philosophy is right when she said some couples get married to fulfill the societal role imposed on them and the relations between them is nothing more than obeying the imposed role till they get divorced either having kids or without having them. After divorce, visiting kids is nothing but similar to same societal role which also imposed on them either by love (I doubt) or by fear of peoples that what they are going to think about themselves that they don’t love their kids anymore.

A kid who grown up watching their parent fights, than he got married and now he’s himself a father but still their parent fights. He asked both of them why you both keeps fighting? They replied: We started loving each other after getting marriage not before that because we don’t know each other. So we pledged to each others that whenever one of us disagrees at any stage the other must try to bring it back to normal in any possible way and never give up. Thus we never gave up in any circumstances. We still fight, as you can see but we love each other so much and whenever we both draw the image of our ‘love’ , it appears in our imagination in shape of cute babies those are you (my kids) and that the only things which bounds us together and never lets us go.

It okay if you guys disagree with me but those who sense me as a troll, are nothing more than like those peoples whom thoughts are just limited in a circle having no power to think beyond that.

It is “ Fairy’s Angel ”. Those who are having problem with my nick, are you willing to give hand of yours sister/daughter to me? Is that why you having an issue with my nick?

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i didn’t understand a lot of your post, but the last couple of lines.. what is that stuff? :konfused:

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:rotfl:I am sorry but you write funny fairysangel.

kids of divorce parents do have such questions. They some times think its their fault that their parents are divorced or question their parent’s love. However if you are not physically and emotionally healthy then how will you be able to handle the responsibility of being a parent? And happiness is an essential element of emotional health.
Of course the ideal situation is a wholesome family life for a kid but sadly life is complicated and things are not always ideal.

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LOL, ok have to admit, Angel bhai saab that was funny :hehe: :k:

But you should not have said it in English. Translation kills it’s meaning.

You should have said:

‘Jinna nu mere nick tu taqleef hondi payee ae: tussi apni payn/beti mere naal wayani ae?’

And now allow me to be offended on that.
NO :snooty: