AoA,
When they get divorce. That is means they don’t love their kids anymore. How can parents become so cruel and stone heart? Can’t they see theirs kidz needs them. How the kid going to live without one of them?
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Yup, that’s exactly what that means…parents should stay in an unhappy relationships for the kids…cause ya kids don’t pick up on stuff at all.
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wow that's such a dumb thing to say.
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AoA,
When they get divorce. That is means they don't love their kids anymore. How can parents become so cruel and stone heart? Can't they see theirs kidz needs them. How the kid going to life without one of them?
You know they can still see the kids and love them and be a good parent even if the parents are divorced.Not the ideal picture,but it has nothing to do with them not loving the kids.Exceptions do exist though.
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Staying together in an unhealthy relationship just for the sake of the kids wont help them either.
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I have seen two cases where parents decided to stay together for the sake of kids but live seperate lives but after sometime they had to face questions like why dont they sleep together in one room or why does mommy goes out on weekend alone and things like that. Eventually the kids found out. So i dont see a point in doing any of this if the relationship has come to a point where you can not stand each other's company . kids are kids but they can grasp the tension and strain. you can not fool them for long.
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Ofcourse its has to do. I think if parents really love their kidz they will do whatever it takes within their power to secure their marriage life and not to get divorce ever.
After divorce, a kid can live either with father or mother. This is not a bright future for a kid because when he grow up he’ll say… oky this is my step father and that is my real mother. This is my real father and that is my step mother. My parents got divorce when I was kid. Probably the kid going to ask their parents why did they divorced ? What will be the answer? Going to Blame each others? 
Just for the sake of their kidz, can’t parent’s leave a side their issues and start all over again freshly?
You know if they really loved their kidz, divorce idea never cross their mind.
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^ step-parents are not evil- this is real life, not disney. a lot of step parents take over when a real parent cannot or does not want to, and they provide a secure, loving home for the kids in their charge.
in order for you to love your kids as you should, you first need to be happy. and if you are in an unhappy marriage or staying together for the sake of the kids, you will not be able to provide the kind of care your kids need from you. sometimes, you have to put your own happiness ahead of everyone else's- even your kids. not evrey marriage is the right one- why suffer your whole life?
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I feel bad for saying but with a mentality like this you will grow up to be one great auntie!
No one gets married n have kids with the intention to get divorced, it's allowed yet disliked in the eyes if Allah so when someones takes that action , it's probably the best for everyone!
Would you rather see your mother happy with a step father or miserable with biological father? Being a mother isn't a piece if cake and being a strong mother..now that's admirable!
By no means I m advocating for divorce, but if the situation requires that..so be it!better late than never!
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How bout this kiddo…first get married…realize just hoe hard it is to make it work… And then this whole divorce busimess will make more sense (when u see just how much of a compromise it is).
Right now u wont get it…nadaan nadia 
OR
How bout this…say god forbid your father was a cheating sharabi that also took part in domestic abuse… Would u feel happy knowing your mother is putting up with him and his brutality just cuz he is your father and divorce would mean breaking up the home? (which in this case is already a broken home)
There… Thats better now isnt it?
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Unfortunately life is not as black and white.Divorce is not an easy solution but if the parents are not compatible for whatever reasons and they already have kids,the worst thing would be to stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the kids.Do not ask me how or why I know for sure,but that can screw up the kids so bad that it can be impossible for them to hold onto any relationship when they themselves grow up.
The ideal perfect and happy family no doubt is the one where mommy and daddy love each other and all live happily ever after,but this necessarily is not always possible.
It is not easy to put aside your own issues,unhappiness or whatever issues you have with your spouse and pretend in front of the kids all is well.Marital problems take a toll on your on mind and that influences parenting.I know for sure that on days when I am upset for some reason (not necessarily with the husband but for any reason) ,my daughter can sense that.She is just 2 years old.I sense that that I am not being attentive to her and just want to be left alone for a while.I cannot imagine someone being upset or sad or depressed about their marriage yet being cheery and pretending all to be normal in front of the kids.
Secondly step parents are not always bad.As I said before there are always exceptions.My own father was raised by a step mom after his own mom passed away while giving birth.My dadi (may she rest in peace) was nothing like the monster step mom we imagine.
I am not an advocate for divorce,but if the parents are divorced they can be good parents…I still believe what I said in the earlier post.You don’t have to bash or bad mouth the other parent if the kid asks you why you guys are not married.I would also add that yes kids from divorced parents might face some issues,as it is not the prettiest situation,but to say that the parents don’t love the kids when they decide to get a divorce just does not seem to be the right thing.
No offense or disrespect and just out of curiosity,are you married…??..Your POV certainly changes about marriage and all once you actually do get married…
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life isn't all about absolutes.
you sound very very young and naive ...
as khawateen said above ... wait till you marry and have a child before you climb the pulpit to lecture others.
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Ok, I’m trying not to blow my top here (God help me to keep my composure), but I find your generalizations very insulting, to say the least. There are plenty of people here on GS (myself included) who’s parents are divorced, and it is not the end-all death sentence you seem to think it is. We all turned out to be very normal, healty & functioning members of society. This is a very personal topic, and no two situations are alike, so unless you have life experience with this subject, it’s best not to make uneducated remarks lest you offend someone.
There is saying “unless you have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all…”
Think about that my friend.
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life isn't all about absolutes. you sound very very young and naive ... as khawateen said above ... wait till you marry and have a child before you climb the pulpit to lecture others.
Thank you ladies, my point EXACTLY.
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i had seen absolutely fine and smart peoples whose parents got divorce....
but seen child with psychological problems when parents have troubled marriage as chip6 said.....
thats what muslims of subcontinent do not acknowledge........they also want to have troubled marriage to continue for "saat janam"
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Am I said step-parents are evil? I’m not talking about step-parents. I’m talking about divorced parents and about their kids.
Bring youself in middle and tell to your friend that on my right hand, ‘This is my real mother and my step-father’ and on my left hand, ‘That is my real father and my step-mother’. Tell me how do you feel while saying that to your friend or how your friend will react?
For your second paragraph, what if kid ask 'why you both get divorced?
Again I am not talking about divorce but actually I am talking about ‘Dad+Mom+Me’, neither step-parents are my concern.Being ‘Me’ I ask my ‘Dad’ and ‘Mom’ that I wants to live with both of you and don’t wants to leave any of you. For whatever reasons you got divorced because you both were unable to compromise with each others and taking such steps which can make you life happier than before. But both of you please tell me ‘what was my mistake? why I have been forced to live without one of you’?
Mashallah! such a nice reply. 
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^^ I love how you've conveniently skipped over my reply, or did it make too much sense?
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^^ I love how you've conveniently skipped over my reply, or did it make too much sense?
WoW! there was only 5 posts when i multi-quoted for reply. Will get back to you, don't worry :)
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Me+ cliff = fall over. Voluntarily!
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LOL....Why are you ladies all ganged up on the poor OP? Did she say anything anti semitic or somethig?
FA: I'm sorry that you had to witness your parents' divorce, its not easy and often it leaves the kids with lots of questions, confusion and resentment. Its nothing out of ordinary, perhaps posting here was not a very good idea. Maybe you need to talk to a proper adult in real life and open up without getting ridiculed and judged. I agree that not all parents do everything within their power to make the marriage work for sake of their kids, sometimes they just want an easy escape for themselves. Yes marriage is a hard work and not every couple in this whole wide world works hard enough to make it work (oh shock horror!)..So try to at least acknowoledge the other side of the argument instead of just throwing the text book answers. I think someone had already said that life is not all black and white nor its a nice real life Disney channel.