This is for a friend of mine. Due to the bad economy, he arranged a backup plan for staying in US if he didnt find a job. So during his last semester at school, he got into a relationship with an american lady who in PC terms can be called overly obese. Now ofcourse he wasnt attracted to her at all. So during his relationship, he was able to avoid any “physical activites” by saying his religon didnt allow it.
So he hasnt found a job and instead of leaving, he asked her to marry him. Now as his marriage is coming up very soon, poor guy is scraed as to hell as to how to avoid any ahem..ahem..physical stuff..during wedding night/honeymoon.
pretty disgusting and cheap if you ask me. if you're gonna marry the lady for reasons other than lifelong commitment and love and all that jazz, at least negotiate it and see if she's willing to, but dont dupe her into believing that this is a happily ever after love story.
Okay I am sorry, that was just too funny in a very blunt way ..
Dude, how can he avoid intimacy on a wedding night. Is not that expected from him ..
BTW, no personal attacks but why 90 % of our out of immigration status Pakistani guys fall in love with obese white ladies? I’ve seen that so many times that now when I hear that a Pakistani guy married a white American girl, I know that she must be from Rosanne Barr tribe rather than Angelina Jolie type
^everyone needs love and apparently "some" Pakistani guys are easier to get it from due to their ulterior motives! not all are like tht but i knw of a few who've married and left the gori's after the paperwork is processed etc!
Sharam aani chahiye - marrying someone and hurting their feelings just to have a backup plan to stay in a country is pretty low and disrespectful - insaan ko apni izzat itni to karni chahiye ke woh apne aap se nigaah mila sake!
and where the wedding night/physical stuff is concerned.. woh to phir iss shaadi ka hissa hain.. he cant just go out for a walk the night of and expect his wife to be ok with it -
pretty disgusting and cheap if you ask me. if you're gonna marry the lady for reasons other than lifelong commitment and love and all that jazz, at least negotiate it and see if she's willing to, but dont dupe her into believing that this is a happily ever after love story.
I agree. What a lowlife, people like this make me sick.
Oh, and I'd hardly say he has 'innocence' if he's into all these lies and deceit..
So he hasnt found a job and instead of leaving, he asked her to marry him. Now as his marriage is coming up very soon, poor guy is scraed as to hell as to how to avoid any ahem..ahem..physical stuff..during wedding night/honeymoon.
.
Why is he avoiding any sexual contact. , even according to religion, she would be his legal wife . You think he is afraid that she will crush him or he thinks he is not well equipped to fulfill the fulfillment of the lady of that size?
OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! This guy is worried about avoiding sexual intimacy with his obese friend???????? THAT is the LEAST of his problems. HE has BIGGER ISSUES to deal with such as a lack of honesty........and a weak conscience.
Does this guy think that just because this girl is obese/unattractive that she doesn't have feelings? Does this girl even know about his intentions for the marriage?
The solution here is a rather simple one. The guy in question simply needs to confront the girl and be HONEST about his intentions for this marriage and also his EXPECTATIONS for the marriage. He needs to tell her upfront that he only married her to get paperwork to settle down in the US.........and that he doesn't want sex to be a part of the arrangement. Whether the girl still wants to be with him is another issue. If this girl has not been informed about the truth....it's sad that he is not taking into account HER feelings. He's only thinking of HIMSELF.......HIS JOB/CAREER........HIS SETTLING DOWN IN THE US.......and now HIS SEXUAL ISSUES.
The funny title of this thread does make it seem like a joke, LOL. I'm thinking that even if this guy started a relationship with this girl..........surely his discomfort in being intimate with her must have shown. Didn't the girl see it? Why would she settle for him? He deserves to be sat on!
Yeah…and to make the “position” more MEMORABLE…the girl should charge from one end of the room and fling herself on him for better impact. No more guy…no more problem! And such a position will be pleasurable for the person who matters most in this situation…the GIRL!
OR its a give and take world 
helping the guy with positions??? j/k