Re: How can i NOT mind anything!
Honestly, I don’t know how people think it is quite nomal for a person to ignore their spouse when they are with their families or close friends. That’s not normal. Maybe your husband does it without being aware of it and realizing how hurtful his behaviour is. A person can throughly enjoy their family **and **be inclusive of their spouse. It’s not a mutually exclusive experience. You either enjoy your family or be good to your spouse. I was going to suggest you talk to him but honestly, everyone works differently. Being open & honest with some people just doesn’t work.
I wonder what your husband would think is fair if you told him that you have a friend whose husband does this and ask for his male perspective on how your friend should deal with the husband, you’ll get more insight into what is going on inside of him. Maybe asking him his perspective will get his mind thinking and then a few days later, tell him that you understand how much fun it is for him to be around his family and you hope that you can be a part of the merriment.