Re: How can i NOT mind anything!
What Muniya said!!! I’ve been married 14 (almost 15!) years and we’re now to the point where our family (me, him & the 3 kids) are first. I didn’t bamboozle him into it, he had to get there himself. Whining/complaining to him about will not serve any purpose. It will make things worse.
Here’s a little anecdote I always find funny:
When my husband and I got married, I was still in college and working almost full time at the mall. We lived about 25-30 minutes away from his family to be closer to his job and my university. Working at the mall, my hours were usually 1pm-9pm, sometimes I’d have the opening shift though the very next day or college classes. The first 2-3 months we were married, my husband would insist on us going to his brothers/mom’s house **every single night **regardless if we both had work or school the next morning. If I objected, obviously, he’d get pissy and make a face. So I sucked it up and did it, even though as soon as we got there, they were all busy in their own conversations (my in-laws speak another language) and I was largely ignored. Khair, I made myself busy with the young neice and nephew…It continued on like that for years…whenever we got together for dinners or get togethers, regardless if it was at home or out at a restaurant, un logon ki alag masjid banna zaroori hi tha…
Fast forward to about 5-6 years ago, my hubby’s best friend got married to a girl from out of state. The girls Khala lived here in our same city so her parents would visit quite frequently. Everytime they were in town, she would insist on going to her khala’s for dinner or to hang out no matter how late it got. One day, the friend was over at our house complaining about how he was getting sick and tired of driving 30+ minutes to see his inlaws every night when he had work the next day. We aaahd and oooohhd sympatheticaly. After he left my husband turned to me and said “had hai yaar…uski biwi ko samajna chaiya, yay kya bachpana hai..” I nearly pee’d in my pants laughing so hard! I had to remind dear husbaaand ji of our own past with the exact same issue and the look on his face was priceless 
So cute ainee, chin up…it does get better. Go and enjoy the wedding and try to busy yourself in preps so you don’t feel left out.