One of my neighbour who has done BA(Bachelor of Arts) she has two sons one is in 3rd grade other one is in 5th grade…she is a housewife,she was helping them in homework (math n science) n the elder one said that ‘mom what do u know about math n science u r working n cooking all day’…that was mean…but definitely she has the knowledge…
my question is for all the housewives n those working ladies whose job is not related to their education field…
is it or will it be difficult for u to teach ur children?from skool to college level…
are your children comfortable with you helping them in homework or tests?or concept based discussions?
My mom who is just an inter pass used to help with studies and all till I was in grade 5th. It's not about having knowledge it is more about scheduling and disciplining your kids to do study and home work on daily basis and make them give more time and do more efforts during the exams.
I was very comfortable having my mother as my guidance and my teacher at home.
My mom who is just an inter pass used to help with studies and all till I was in grade 5th. It's not about having knowledge it is more about scheduling and disciplining your kids to do study and home work on daily basis and make them give more time and do more efforts during the exams. .
Exactly. My father, who never went to school beyond the 10th grade, taught me till the 6th grade. It was primarily to inculcate a sense of responsibility in terms of learning and homework. And those lessons have helped me to this day. Kids these days are a bit arrogant in the sense that they are born with computers in their mouths, and with a few clicks of google, think that they know the world. So its not unheard of for kids to say such stuff. But at the end of the day, parents are the best source of training for kids, and it should stay that way.
that's very rude of the children to say so.. I guess I agree with Silaaj, our generation was very much dependent on the parents, books they got us, and thought our parents knew it all.. probably such is not the case with children these days!!!
I hope my children never say such a thing, but if they did, out the door they go!!! (ok j/k but I am sure they will learn their lesson for being rude to the parents)
It would be great if the mother could one day involve the child in the cooking. Measuring/approximating/checking volume/keeping time/considering ratio and proportions all involve basic math skills. Heating and baking, turning things from liquid to solid, etc all involve chemistry. It would be great if the mother could SHOW her child that (without telling him that that's the goal of the "lesson").
my mom was a working woman n she taught me upto 10th grade n i used to discuss a lot of stuff with my dad even when i was in univ…
i myself am a housewife n will try my best to teach n discuss science topics with my kid untill n unless i might forget the college univ level math n science after sooo many years…have to keep myself updated lol after hearing the rude reply from that kid:bummer:
Also, I just want to add that if you don't know or understand something, do try to brush up, but don't insist that you can teach your child when you can't. Your job is to make sure that your child knows where to go and how to go about getting the help s/he needs. You ARE NOT the teacher. Teach as much as you can, but at some point most likely your child is going to become specialized in a field that you are not an expert (whether you are working or not). Your child needs to be able to make use of the many available resources. Not just expect the parent to figure things out.
Sahar.. but we are talking 3rd and 5th grader.. I feel like a mother with BA can definitely teach that or at least help with the homework.. specialized field comes after 10th grade so thats when you leave it for the experts, if needed.
My mother had her masters in urdu literature, worked all her life, but she taught us everything and no not through cooking but still drilled the concepts in us.. math, sciences, wasnt her speciality but she still used to help with it in Pakistan, if I asked for it. She got me a tutor for math in 10th grade but until then she had no problems helping us with homework.
^GTG yeah, I agree. I just wanted to add that as it comes up by middle school. Also some subjects may not have been part of the parents' schooling (like foreign languages and history of certain regions and such).
Gosh, I think the problem isnt just for SAHM it's with most mothers/parents. I worry sometimes that what if munckin thinks im incapable of helping her out with her school work.
My dad helped all us siblings a great deal whilst growing up. Even at tertiary level.. but he's a lectuter at uni and a lot of what we were doing at school/uni was his speciality or hobby. I hope I can be even 50% of what my dad was to us.. Inshallah.
Kids ask silly questions sometimes but a lot of times they get vibes from how the parents present themselves. Some moms behave like they don't care about anything except making salans so I wouldn't blame their kids for doubting their other skills :D!
Anyway, I think it's a great idea for all parents to participate in their kids' educational needs to the point they can and are able to do so. It's OK to ask for extra help at school or senior kids in the neighborhood.
my 3rd grader gets his weekly homework packet every monday, and it is then due on Friday. It’s usually 2-3 pages of reading comprehension and spelling/vocabulary and then the rest math. i hate math. despise it. i was an english/journalism major in college. my husband usually helps him with the math part, but a couple of weeks ago, I saw him struggling with one of the pages…he was upset because he said that they had not “been taught” the subject matter yet so why was it in the homework packet…it turns out that the wrong lesson plan inadvertantly was printed out. the sheet was on angles (acute, obtuse, right etc). so he kept freaking out about not knowing it and i looked at him and said “calm down, even if you havn’t been taught this yet, it’s okay, i can teach it to you…” so what does he do? he says to me “yea right mama, like you know anything about math…papa is the one i need help from”
so after ***he ***got the smack upside the head, i taught him the lesson…he know has a new found respect for his math challenged duffar mama
^ agree, its the caring factor and how much attention a parent pays to their childs educational needs.
My mum took a lot of interest in the other types of eduction we got at school (i.e home economics, textiles etc. ) and so she used to help us out a lot with that… she didnt think she was smart enough to help us with other things… shame, because you never know what you really are capable of unless u give it a shot.
There are a lot of questions munchkin asks me and someimes i dont knwo the answer 100% so I do sit down with her and try to figure out what it actually means (I love Google )
tsk tsk queer… a lot of mums who did have a career prior to working (and even those who didnt), stay at home just so they CAN give their kids 100%. That’s their main criteria.
Before moving to Aus… mum was fully involved in our school work (in Pakistan).. she’s like it was a headache! lol… cus there is so much competition back there..
i was a lecturer in college before marriage in pakistan n most of my students's moms didnt even know about their child's abilities n intellect...i was so amazed to see those careless moms....
n they used to say to me "he/she is in your hand what do we know that how they are....."
but those moms who have not studied much...they were more concern about their kids....
i think mom n dad should atleast KNOW that what is their child's statistics in studies
I am a working mother and they are surprised that I know anything. 
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